Becoming a bow

Parents, how many of you want the best for your children? That’s an easy question for most, possibly answered with a short three letter word. Scriptures’ direction for parents are numerous and written with reference to arrows but with emphasis on us being better first. Better in our relation with our Heavenly Father and our neighbors/people alike.

I am no archer but I have shot a few arrows mostly in a range setting. Grabbing the bow and arrow felt awkward for me at first possibly because I am left handed but more so due to lack of understanding. Compound bows, recurved bows, long bows and crossbows. In my thinking of bows and what they can do the crossbows and compound bows appear to shot the arrow the furthest. I attribute this speed and distance it shoots its arrows, in relation to the range of skills a parent might need to help a child cover the greatest distance with speed and accuracy. As parents, we sometimes have to add to our knowledge if we want to engage in some passions our children present. Being thankful for a child’s gift is easily praise worthy for most but as they moves through to higher levels our knowledge sometimes need to be expanded to keep engagement high. Council and selected advisors appear to be essential when going to battle especially the unknown. The arrow must be prepared, able to stand as an agent with all the foundational principles and values that forge the unshakable character that’s necessary.

When a child prefers to be a bit more cautious possibly timid, we know to not let them stray to far from us. In addition if the child is daring before having mastered self control. I equate a long bow as the more appropriate type of parenting style. Quick draw to shoot but more likely for shorter distances. Pointing our children to new skills and attributes that can be developed and implemented quickly for practice. Easily within our sites for support and correction when needed. This does not mean the child is any less capable, it just means they may still need the parent for some executive functioning skills, distractibility from mission by the wind along with possible hands-on type resources. The recurve bow may be the next step up from the long bow when slightly larger goals are in sight but more polish still would be beneficial before full agency.

Knowing which bow you are currently and strengthen yourself as the bow is essential. Both parents unified in their efforts will be better equipped to know which bow is best as compared to the additional challenge with division. There is only so much we can do as parent and it’s just as important to know when additional support is necessary. Our circle needs to be tight in their understanding of the role each plays in a child’s life compared to another. Making sure to extend our tolerances for each other as they bring their unique individual gifts and talents.

As the word notes love is the greatest.

It’s difficult to know exactly where our children will be in the future but there is hope; it allows us to dream good dreams for our children until they receive the vision we can support. One thing worth noting that for most, the gifts that a child hold appears first to parents even before the child recognizes it and we are tasked with nurturing and developing them whether it’s many or just one. How far can we bend our bow’s appears to be an important piece in preparation for purpose, both us and them.

Kidstrive to fly like arrows

Loving union

When a man and woman unite and the two becomes one in the union. Love brings about great miracles spoke into existence since the beginning and all the words spoken created yesterday, today and tomorrow.

Truth – Children are a blessing and when we unite in union, we are to come into agreement to the purposes our Heavenly Father has for His children.

“Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.””
‭‭John‬ ‭14:6-7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Law – Children are seeking direction in the way they should go. We are are taught to pass the laws from our Heavenly Father to our children so they can pass it to their children. In his commandments instructions are given to our children, let’s point them towards it and don’t abandon it. We must draw near so so we can demonstrate for our children.

Culture – It’s the atmosphere and environment that our children are subjected too. The invitation of peace and truth has been given to us. Parents, please be aware of the cultural messages that come at our children from all sides. Oneness is a must for our children anything else is too costly.

The events in the news has shown us the power of an atmosphere. My condolences for those who lost their lives. Let us teach our children the truth because there is only one. We are only made in one image.


Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

Keeping our children safe.

Protecting the light. Light is void of darkness

How can we convince our children that the rules we have are there to keep them safe?

Is there something we could say, or do, or maybe we have lost something ourselves and are in need of direction? Right, what do we know if we don’t know the Truth.

Should we tell them to listen to us because we love them. What about what their friends say? Do we do it by stating or explaining what laws are and agents assigned to help enforce that law in our society will cover us all? Do we plead with them or by giving them all the desires they have and they ones they muster in their hearts? This list can go on for a long time…. and is any of it affective consistently. Demonstration of the effectiveness of a united, collective system walking out the Law in each and ever family is the only way we can ensure safety to the foundation. Just like we are loved that we inherit a beautiful planet/home that was created in a system with all that it needs, void of nothing and shielded from the darkness. So we should create and maintain the foundation of family we received so our children can inherit a world filled with life and growth.

This is only a theory, if we teach that the law is there to maintain foundation principles in a society not to win our personal agenda cases. They are there because the people we love, we protect. Through love, love flourishes and then radiates to penetrate the heart / subconscious mind of another in order to do it all again. This precious love filled with the truth, and void of contaminants that lead a society in the wrong direction. Things that are anti to truth and love breeds lies that are dangerous to life, purpose and our identities and that of our children. darkness being the absence of light has no power over light but yet still wants to participate in light knowing that it could never be light. Parents allow the light to fill your home keeping darkness at bay. It has no power here.

Instead teach them to be agents of the one true Teacher. Kidstrive to perpetuate love and life from one family to another so that no one should be in the darkness, absent of light. All worthy of a chance to be welcomed.

How can water carve with its power but be contaminated with a drop of ink. And then there is hope.

Attempting to answer the questions of a child, with love.

We are all children when attempting to navigate complex questions in our world.

My condolences for all who have lost and experience pain through our current challenges.

In an attempt to formulate an answer to the image above:

Because the hardest thing to do is to change a persons mind. You have to convince and possibly demonstrate why they should leave that ism (system/construct) and enter/forge a new one based in truth which deals in value. How do you make this a value to another.

And all of this has to be done in love.

Being Real makes a person stand their ground which have lead to wars. They then never really accept it in their hearts.
It’s not something you can force on a person.

Why or how does a person take a position such as this?

Because as free beings we get to choose. Those choices can be corrupted by the world and some environments we find ourselves. The ugliness that stems from that is dark. The only thing to extinguishes darkness is light 💡.

Jesus is, and is the only one who has explained my heart and yours. It’s the only way to avoid hate that is part of the thing that corrupts a heart. We are unable to mange hate. History has proven that…….

Kidstrive to move out of negative constructs and into the Kingdom.

Who are you? Some words for our children .

“Jesus said, “The first in importance is, ‘Listen, Israel: The Lord your God is one; so love the Lord God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy.’ And here is the second: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ There is no other commandment that ranks with these.””
‭‭Mark‬ ‭12:29-31‬ ‭MSG‬‬

“God spoke: “Let us make human beings in our image, make them reflecting our nature So they can be responsible for the fish in the sea, the birds in the air, the cattle, And, yes, Earth itself, and every animal that moves on the face of Earth.” God created human beings; he created them godlike, Reflecting God’s nature. He created them male and female. God blessed them: “Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge! Be responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air, for every living thing that moves on the face of Earth.””
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭1:26-28‬ ‭MSG‬‬

“Love GOD, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that’s in you, love him with all you’ve got!”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:5‬ ‭MSG‬‬

““Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven. “Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:13-16‬ ‭MSG‬‬

You need to seek knowledge and get understanding. Keep God close and ask for discernment in navigating this world.

Respect and love your parents.

Fight for the less fortunate and the poor.

Work to give Jesus the glory in the things you do.

Treat others with kindness and love. Slow to anger.

Start anywhere in God’s Word. One suggestion is 2nd Peter:

“So don’t lose a minute in building on what you’ve been given, complementing your basic faith with good character, spiritual understanding, alert discipline, passionate patience, reverent wonder, warm friendliness, and generous love, each dimension fitting into and developing the others. With these qualities active and growing in your lives, no grass will grow under your feet, no day will pass without its reward as you mature in your experience of our Master Jesus. Without these qualities you can’t see what’s right before you, oblivious that your old sinful life has been wiped off the books.

So, friends, confirm God’s invitation to you, his choice of you. Don’t put it off; do it now. Do this, and you’ll have your life on a firm footing, the streets paved and the way wide open into the eternal kingdom of our Master and Savior, Jesus Christ.”
‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭1:5-11‬ ‭MSG‬‬

“A meal of bread and water in contented peace is better than a banquet spiced with quarrels.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17:1‬ ‭MSG‬‬

Kidstrive for our children to grow.

Shooting Arrows (updated)

Children carry our DNA and that’s not even the half of it. What they carry in essence are an essential part of what it means to be human!

Kidstrive to honor their parents and serve their purpose by perpetual proliferation of the love they received multiplied.

A Father Says!

Walk as I walk, I have prepared the way for you little one.

What are you in need of; I will give it to you.

Be good to people and treat them with kindness.

All things you do should be done with intent and with forever in mind. Not for immediate gratification.

Keep you family close and teach them the ways and nature of God through constant communication and how you walk.

Treat the person you partner with in this life as one and not as separate from you.

No man can determine who you are, know your identity through the values you have been given.

Treat the property of another with respect and return it in better shape / multiples of when you were charged with its responsibility.

Speak and love your life in positivity and be a light to all.

Form your character by repeated acts or behaviors and actions that become ingrained into who you are and becoming.

Treat all with respect of their person.

Be known by the things you produce and how you make others feel.

Courage in all things that require discipline by finding joy in the process with big picture.

Choose your friends with care, it’s a precious choice we have. They should serve to lift you and serve in holding you accountable to the things you say and do. Challenging you in your path to becoming….

Walking upright with confidence that the world can put their hands on.

Growing in knowledge and understanding as the principle thing in the growth process.

Your gifts will make room for you in this world. Polish them and choose you paths to help improve it. Stay humble in regards to these things and know from whom it has been given.

Know the power of your voice and let good things come from it.

Respect and prayer for people in authority or have been placed in authority over you.

Belief in the truth, because as you may know there is only one.

Temporary things have temporary value so value the path of forever.

Love your family, community, society, country and the world as a precious gift.

Treat your yourself to the highest standard because of what it carries on the inside.

Create good things with you hands.

Kidstrive to know without a shadow of doubt.

Through the important question of How???

Our children have several questions as they grow. The question of how things work is deeply rooted in gaining a healthy understanding of the world.

Listen attentively to these questions as they present. They serve as opportunity to gain their confidence and your ability to keep them safe. This question is roots their ability to critically think. It appears after a few bumps and bruises that the had no foresight for, with faint to no understanding of consequences at this point. Some opportunities may slip through but it’s important you be there as they root themselves in reality as they form judgment of the things around in their environment.

Imagination is a major part of their thought and should not be diminished because of its ties to play that is associated with their understanding of the social construct. The ability to form sound judgment in the decision making process will typically need guidance of the teacher’s in their life “Dad and Mom.” These need to done in your presence so be present for these opportunities. They are not to be handed to a care giver especially when not at work because guiding this process could possibly be tied to what it means to be a parent.

This is specially significant in a time where religious beliefs, faith based practices are minimized in the home. Storytelling, family readings, faith based activity, “family devotions,” and one on one talks with deep intimacy are critical to their development. Understand to everything there is a purpose and to everything a cost and consequence for omissions, no matter where you stand currently. There are some essentials kids need for the soundness of mind. This is especially important in the areas of Fears, addictions, vanity, sadness, isolation and depression, behaviors and some other things that can have a negative effect on thriving.

Keep on alert for the how question as they learn and grow. Think of all the areas where critical thinking is needed at high levels like Math and Science to name a few.

Some of the initial question like:

  • Question about clouds and rain!
  • How Air works?
  • How water behaves?
  • How much in boundaries of quantity.
  • How long until you return that has deep roots in a common lagger in understanding of time and change.
  • How birds fly?
  • How to play various games to give understanding of give and take in association with turn taking.
  • How did I get here?

As you might be aware if you have been around little ones those questions come in the thousands so:

  • Place priority to knowledge and understanding in the home and when seeking caregivers.
  • Creativity should also be made a priority.
  • Routine can also be important in association with time and expected outcomes.
  • Intimacy in conversation and general care. Slow anger and minimal frustration should be shown as negative behaviors present. Keep your instruction on repeat in anticipation of the action and limited at the time of the event. Correct firmly in love and quick to forgive.

How do you do that Dad?

How come Mom?

Speak to it now while you have there air so when they have the ability to decide they choose to continue to heed your voice along with the morals and values held. They will take your voice with you as they grow even outside your presence, so speak things of value that last.

Kidstrive to know how?

Thank you for reading!

What do kids crave but tend to hate? (Repost)

Consistency, consistency, consistency…..

Children have the strangest time with this one. Well come to think of it adults as well.

They look for stability and it can equal security. A household that goes under big changes, like a move, a death, a divorce, a kid going off to college, an adoption, the remarriage of a parent, even a change in schools like from elementary to middle. All of these changes and so many more can represent a loss of security, pay attention to who your children are. If they are having difficulty, look out for the subtle changes in habits and behaviors. They may go through a divorce and mention something small as who is going tuck me in at night. It may be something they never mentioned previously or even seem to care about but these are pillars of security, so hold them close and reassure.

These are difficult things to have answers for but it depends on the child and there uniqueness. What seems to help is new routines that are Tailored to them. Increased presence, individual walks, family celebrations even if they seem disinterested. Some kids may show disinterest as a test to see if it’s something that will stick around long enough. They are resilient but fragile so listen and watch, be vigilant and don’t compare it to any other scenario that you may know of because your child is unique.

Thank you for reading.

Father’s voice

What can a man do when he has fear of speaking?

Crippling fear of conflict because of suppressed anger?

Losing a hold of family?

Under appreciated but would not dare to say a word because that’s not what men do?

Driving around on aimless errands?

Deeply buried in structured sport you don’t participate in?

Hurting to see the family in pain but can bare to face it.

Biting your tongue before telling your teen how your truly feel.

Feeling as though you are laying in waiting to be needed.

Missing the innocence of being needed and looked to for hope?

Turning to your spouse and don’t know the words to respond?

Our strength will never be enough by itself, so why wait? See the comfort and direction in the Counselor listening for his voice and offering complete surrender to Christ in order to speak. Then speak!

I prayer that the home is well and your spouse know how unstoppable you feel when she whispers in your ear and lifts you up. Tell he you feel as though you can lift a building when she tells you for your efforts. Let her know your masculinity needs fuel and you only go to one station for fuel. This in turn makes her feel needed and appreciated when she knows she can lay her burdens on you and you will not break. Her love and beauty is unmatched. Don’t let a spirit of division creep in and destroy what you vowed. Tell her the truth of your struggle so she can help.

Our children look for us to be one, undivided in voice, step, direction, vision, mission and love for them. Surrender it!

Kidstrive for happy content parents in order to know the purpose and value of their future, not one filled with fear of tomorrow.

Warning about drugs and substance abuse.

Your body houses your future in it. Everything prepared in advance. So protect it and stay firm on your values. Even the ones others deem silly! Friendships are done in close quarters across long journeys. Be identified by your joy and fixed in your beliefs, humble in the presence of those truly in need but firm in the things deemed what everyone else is doing. Your are uniquely and wonderfully made. Not all can go where your going nor do they want too. Protect your person with grace giving coverage and know that you are enough. Your memories are precious and should never torment you to want to escape it. You will choose only good things that form good memories!

Your character should be worn daily where for all to see, because if they approach you with the request to participate in some accounts you have already tripped. Make them know you by your decisions you have decided long ago. Although this may sound intense for some, realize that the things that present as tempting or interesting are only the things you did not answer in advance of the question.

The content below is from the site with links to the author.

“Parents who are educated about the effects of drug use and learn the facts can give their kids correct information and clear up any misconceptions. You’re a role models for your kids, and your views on alcohol, tobacco, and drugs can strongly influence how they think about them. So make talking about drugs a part of your general health and safety conversations.

Preschool to Age 7

Before you get nervous about talking to young kids, take heart. You’ve probably already laid the groundwork for a discussion. For instance, whenever you give a fever medicine or an antibiotic to your child, you can discuss why and when these medicines should be given. This is also a time when your child is likely to pay attention to your behavior and guidance.

Take advantage of “teachable moments” now. If you see a character in a movie or on TV with a cigarette, talk about smoking, nicotine addiction, and what smoking does to a person’s body. This can lead into a discussion about other drugs and how they could cause harm.

Keep the tone of these discussions calm and use terms that your child can understand. Be specific about the effects of the drugs: how they make a person feel, the risk of overdose, and the other long-term damage they can cause. To give your kids these facts, you might have to do a little research.

Ages 8 to 12

As your kids grow older, you can begin talks with them by asking them what they think about drugs. By asking the questions in a nonjudgmental, open-ended way, you’re more likely to get an honest response.

Remember to show your kids that you’re listening and really paying attention to their concerns and questions.

Kids this age usually are still willing to talk openly to their parents about touchy subjects. Starting a dialogue now helps keep the door open as kids get older and are less inclined to share their thoughts and feelings.

Even if your questions don’t immediately result in a discussion, you’ll get your kids thinking about the issue. Show them that you’re willing to discuss the topic and hear what they have to say. Then, they might be more willing to come to you for help in the future.

News, such as steroid use in professional sports, can be springboards for casual conversations about current events. Use these discussions to give your kids information about the risks of drugs.

Ages 13 to 17

Kids this age are likely to know other kids who use alcohol or drugs, and to have friends who drive. Many are still willing to express their thoughts or concerns with parents about it. They may ask you more specific questions about drugs.

Use these conversations not only to understand your child’s thoughts and feelings, but also to talk about the dangers of driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Talk about the legal issues — jail time and fines — and the possibility that they or someone else might be killed or seriously injured.

Consider making a written or verbal contract on the rules about going out or using the car. You can promise to pick your kids up at any time (even 2 a.m.!), no questions asked, if they call you when the person responsible for driving has been drinking or using drugs.

The contract also can detail other situations: For example, if you find out that someone drank or used drugs in your car while your son or daughter was behind the wheel, you may want to suspend driving privileges for 6 months. By discussing all of this with your kids from the start, you eliminate surprises and make your expectations clear.

Laying Good Groundwork

No parent, child, or family is immune to the effects of drugs. Any kid can end up in trouble, even those who have made an effort to avoid it and even when they have been given the proper guidance from their parents.

However, certain groups of kids may be more likely to use drugs than others. Kids who have friends who use drugs are likely to try drugs themselves. Those feeling socially isolated for whatever reason may turn to drugs. “

Parents stay within the midst as this article points too. Do not make excuses for isolation because in there lies the chance to be isolated by the beast of the field. Be an awkward parent willing to sit in the middle so you can be the example to those who don’t have one to model. Be of steady character because you never know which little eye is watching and is in need of a healthy example. Be curious about their lives with a care as if they were your own because your voice could just be the deciding factor when risk arrives.

Kidstrive for someone to care about their present and future.