Hope, faith and love

Human made in His image. Body, soul and spirit all working as one to form who we are. When does a child become anxious? Feelings of falling and grasping for air during one of the stages of sleep. Clinging to a parent as though one might me snatched away, watching or hearing stories about the dark and allowing curiosity to lead to seek out more when it is clear it scares you. Hearing and repeating words that are dark against ourselves and the ones we love. It seems it takes us away from the truth and down a path we sometimes need help to come back. Proving that we should not be alone and surrounded in covenant relationships. The hope is that our parents are able to discern these challenges if they appear or as they appear. Teaching the laws in the book because in them there is life as scripture says. Taking our children away from the things we were exposed too is a dangerous experiment. Sunday school and church, praying every night, giving thanks for the food we eat, serving one another and keeping his words throughout our homes and on our lips. Seeking far off cultures for answers and applying those as replacement because the world normalized it. I don’t want to even hint I understand these things but I know how heartbreaking it is to see a child struggling and don’t know how to help ground the child. Jesus explains us best.

I look at the world having spent many years studying science, this amazing tradition of observing the world and documenting it for another to replicate. It does not have the affect of making me question who God is because his words tell me. I am so humbled when I look out on water which is made of two parts hydrogen, the primary element in the sun and oxygen the element that efficiently empowers my blood that holds life. I am deeply humbled by these things as I watch the rains comes down the mountains and through the land purging it and heading towards the sea. Looking deeper at these simple elements amd watching them combine in us as well as on the earth, from the cleansing work through hydrogen peroxide h2o2. Hydrogen, really makes up 75% of the sun? Creating surface temperatures at ~10000 degrees, coincidently similar to the core of our earth that has a similar temperature. All neighbors planets not suitable for life but this 3rd plant protected by O3/ozone that help protects us along with the magnetic field. Gravity pulling the oxygen near so we can breathe the very breath you just took while reading this… and another… I only see a loving God who thought of all these things and spoke them into existence. Only thankfulness and awestruck praise I should have when all things including the stars still praise His work now and forever. My simple understanding can never compare to his thoughts so all questions if I have any comes with joy and wonder like a child wrapped in respect, honor and humility.

May God continue to bless our beautiful nation. Kidstrive hope is to move families towards wholeness.

Power of routine

Have you ever went outside of your routine to do something leisurely beneficial or overall self gratifying. You may find that the typical first instinct is to want to try putting that time or activity again.

This appears to be similar to what occurs when a child is given the freedom to go outside their established routine, if established. What I mean is that for most kids, if you allow the opportunity to go past their bed for something they enjoy doing they may want more. Surprised? I am thinking that your not. Children need the structure to aid in keeping them at their best for activities that have higher value. It may seem obvious but one may say it’s only one night but the cost can compound. Teens can be more susceptible because they may think they can manage on only a few hours of sleep. I don’t think mentioning the importance of sleep is needed here.

Emphasize the importance of routine. In fact demonstrating it may have even more value. I will leave out the negatives of lack of sleep and structure can have on a Child’s class activities and overall engagement.

Hopefully this short point is helpful to someone because who wouldn’t want to grant a child’s easy request that you can accommodate with little to know effort. As some might say, “ give a person an inch, they will take a yard.”

Kid strive to create lifelong disciplines that last and that are beneficial.

Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

Keeping our children safe.

Protecting the light. Light is void of darkness

How can we convince our children that the rules we have are there to keep them safe?

Is there something we could say, or do, or maybe we have lost something ourselves and are in need of direction? Right, what do we know if we don’t know the Truth.

Should we tell them to listen to us because we love them. What about what their friends say? Do we do it by stating or explaining what laws are and agents assigned to help enforce that law in our society will cover us all? Do we plead with them or by giving them all the desires they have and they ones they muster in their hearts? This list can go on for a long time…. and is any of it affective consistently. Demonstration of the effectiveness of a united, collective system walking out the Law in each and ever family is the only way we can ensure safety to the foundation. Just like we are loved that we inherit a beautiful planet/home that was created in a system with all that it needs, void of nothing and shielded from the darkness. So we should create and maintain the foundation of family we received so our children can inherit a world filled with life and growth.

This is only a theory, if we teach that the law is there to maintain foundation principles in a society not to win our personal agenda cases. They are there because the people we love, we protect. Through love, love flourishes and then radiates to penetrate the heart / subconscious mind of another in order to do it all again. This precious love filled with the truth, and void of contaminants that lead a society in the wrong direction. Things that are anti to truth and love breeds lies that are dangerous to life, purpose and our identities and that of our children. darkness being the absence of light has no power over light but yet still wants to participate in light knowing that it could never be light. Parents allow the light to fill your home keeping darkness at bay. It has no power here.

Instead teach them to be agents of the one true Teacher. Kidstrive to perpetuate love and life from one family to another so that no one should be in the darkness, absent of light. All worthy of a chance to be welcomed.

How can water carve with its power but be contaminated with a drop of ink. And then there is hope.

Attempting to answer the questions of a child, with love.

We are all children when attempting to navigate complex questions in our world.

My condolences for all who have lost and experience pain through our current challenges.

In an attempt to formulate an answer to the image above:

Because the hardest thing to do is to change a persons mind. You have to convince and possibly demonstrate why they should leave that ism (system/construct) and enter/forge a new one based in truth which deals in value. How do you make this a value to another.

And all of this has to be done in love.

Being Real makes a person stand their ground which have lead to wars. They then never really accept it in their hearts.
It’s not something you can force on a person.

Why or how does a person take a position such as this?

Because as free beings we get to choose. Those choices can be corrupted by the world and some environments we find ourselves. The ugliness that stems from that is dark. The only thing to extinguishes darkness is light 💡.

Jesus is, and is the only one who has explained my heart and yours. It’s the only way to avoid hate that is part of the thing that corrupts a heart. We are unable to mange hate. History has proven that…….

Kidstrive to move out of negative constructs and into the Kingdom.

Words in contrast and association for the family to get understanding

  • Faith and Fear – Peace
  • Truth and lies – justice
  • Honor, respect and glory
  • Wise and Foolish
  • Knowledge, understanding and wisdom
  • Will and Self control.

Be aware when reviewing, it’s helpful to research these preconceived knowledge and if there is, place it through what the books of the Bible says. The dictionary can serve for cultural and historical context but you may be surprised by the congruence.

Hopefully they serve as good discussion and insight for your family.

Kidstrive to be treated in a way to foster healthy growth.

Time and change are two of the biggest things that can affect the growth of a child. Ponder the thought that a child stays in the safety and protection of a mother’s womb for 9 months in order to reach full maturation. This maturation is so wrapped in time for the changes to take form in a healthy environment. When a child arrives we are fascinated by the delicate nature of this beautiful little one. We must gain an understanding of how the brain as well as the body develops because it would give us a better sense of the cost of negatively timed disruptions in growth. Take a moment to imaging your most joyous memories and how you have carried them as your grew. Now, think about the ones that were marked with pain. These memories can be as vivid as if it were yesterday for some. I imagine in my humble opinion that the innate abilities to protect itself could be left in deeply rooted confusion after a traumatic event. The same brain with reflexes in place at birth can be left wondering what went wrong if placed in a sudden onset or extended traumatic situation. The brain is looking for normalcy in homeostasis as it tries to process the event with stress hormones and other chemical regulation in the body. Wherever or whatever is associated with that memory that left trillions of living cells in utter confusion. A nurturing environment must now serve double duty to help the child move past the event with possible little to no effect if they are one in the same.

Get professional support through any event that produced lingering effects that weren’t previously present. Any an all changes should be noted and brought to the attention of the Primary Physician.

Definition of Mental disorder – via Wikipedia

Distressing thought or behavior pattern

mental disorder, also called a mental illness[2]or psychiatric disorder, is a behavioral or mental pattern that causes significant distress or impairment of personal functioning.[3]Such features may be persistent, relapsing and remitting, or occur as a single episode. Many disorders have been described, with signs and symptoms that vary widely between specific disorders.[4][5]Such disorders may be diagnosedby a mental health professional.

Psychogenic voice disorders and traumatic stress experience: a discussion paper with two case reports

Publication HistoryAccepted: November 18, 2002Adelaide, Australia© 2003 The Voice Foundation. Published by Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved

Kidstrive to grow

Warning about drugs and substance abuse.

Your body houses your future in it. Everything prepared in advance. So protect it and stay firm on your values. Even the ones others deem silly! Friendships are done in close quarters across long journeys. Be identified by your joy and fixed in your beliefs, humble in the presence of those truly in need but firm in the things deemed what everyone else is doing. Your are uniquely and wonderfully made. Not all can go where your going nor do they want too. Protect your person with grace giving coverage and know that you are enough. Your memories are precious and should never torment you to want to escape it. You will choose only good things that form good memories!

Your character should be worn daily where for all to see, because if they approach you with the request to participate in some accounts you have already tripped. Make them know you by your decisions you have decided long ago. Although this may sound intense for some, realize that the things that present as tempting or interesting are only the things you did not answer in advance of the question.


The content below is from the kidshealth.org site with links to the author.

“Parents who are educated about the effects of drug use and learn the facts can give their kids correct information and clear up any misconceptions. You’re a role models for your kids, and your views on alcohol, tobacco, and drugs can strongly influence how they think about them. So make talking about drugs a part of your general health and safety conversations.

Preschool to Age 7

Before you get nervous about talking to young kids, take heart. You’ve probably already laid the groundwork for a discussion. For instance, whenever you give a fever medicine or an antibiotic to your child, you can discuss why and when these medicines should be given. This is also a time when your child is likely to pay attention to your behavior and guidance.

Take advantage of “teachable moments” now. If you see a character in a movie or on TV with a cigarette, talk about smoking, nicotine addiction, and what smoking does to a person’s body. This can lead into a discussion about other drugs and how they could cause harm.

Keep the tone of these discussions calm and use terms that your child can understand. Be specific about the effects of the drugs: how they make a person feel, the risk of overdose, and the other long-term damage they can cause. To give your kids these facts, you might have to do a little research.

Ages 8 to 12

As your kids grow older, you can begin talks with them by asking them what they think about drugs. By asking the questions in a nonjudgmental, open-ended way, you’re more likely to get an honest response.

Remember to show your kids that you’re listening and really paying attention to their concerns and questions.

Kids this age usually are still willing to talk openly to their parents about touchy subjects. Starting a dialogue now helps keep the door open as kids get older and are less inclined to share their thoughts and feelings.

Even if your questions don’t immediately result in a discussion, you’ll get your kids thinking about the issue. Show them that you’re willing to discuss the topic and hear what they have to say. Then, they might be more willing to come to you for help in the future.

News, such as steroid use in professional sports, can be springboards for casual conversations about current events. Use these discussions to give your kids information about the risks of drugs.

Ages 13 to 17

Kids this age are likely to know other kids who use alcohol or drugs, and to have friends who drive. Many are still willing to express their thoughts or concerns with parents about it. They may ask you more specific questions about drugs.

Use these conversations not only to understand your child’s thoughts and feelings, but also to talk about the dangers of driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Talk about the legal issues — jail time and fines — and the possibility that they or someone else might be killed or seriously injured.

Consider making a written or verbal contract on the rules about going out or using the car. You can promise to pick your kids up at any time (even 2 a.m.!), no questions asked, if they call you when the person responsible for driving has been drinking or using drugs.

The contract also can detail other situations: For example, if you find out that someone drank or used drugs in your car while your son or daughter was behind the wheel, you may want to suspend driving privileges for 6 months. By discussing all of this with your kids from the start, you eliminate surprises and make your expectations clear.

Laying Good Groundwork

No parent, child, or family is immune to the effects of drugs. Any kid can end up in trouble, even those who have made an effort to avoid it and even when they have been given the proper guidance from their parents.

However, certain groups of kids may be more likely to use drugs than others. Kids who have friends who use drugs are likely to try drugs themselves. Those feeling socially isolated for whatever reason may turn to drugs. “


Parents stay within the midst as this article points too. Do not make excuses for isolation because in there lies the chance to be isolated by the beast of the field. Be an awkward parent willing to sit in the middle so you can be the example to those who don’t have one to model. Be of steady character because you never know which little eye is watching and is in need of a healthy example. Be curious about their lives with a care as if they were your own because your voice could just be the deciding factor when risk arrives.

Kidstrive for someone to care about their present and future.

How to be an advocate for your child! How do we master it?

Listening, patience, defense, action

Listening carefully to the people in your child’s life who show a level of care void of fluff and favoritism. The more honest the better. This typically would be people in your child’s life that consistently lift up your child and able to speak to the areas concerning behavioral, academic or social. Get understanding regarding the environment and the engagement of your child. Listening for behavioral time ins or possible triggers based on their personality. Contrast what was told to you by your child with the words of the caregiver. Children voice can or ability to effectively communicate with parents can be the most challenging. Possibly due to their need for attention and responses to problems that arise in the home.

Patience with our kids can be a challenge of the highest order for many reasons. One worth mentioning is an expectation associated with measure we measure ourselves as adults or one tied to the dreams and aspirations for the void of the current reality. The dreams we sometimes have for them at birth and even prior when the morph into a reality that was not expected. These can be temporary bumps in the road or trajectory. Be mindful that your listening as mentioned above to the needs the have for you rooted in the now. Examples could be: more time spent, new ways to spend time possibly creating or being lost in work as a pair synergistically. A walk one on one. A unique activity shared only between you and the child or both parents and the child. This and many others can get too or aid a child in a sense of completeness. Be aware of your tone in any area you know to be a challenge because that in itself can serve as a trigger to the negative responses. Patient in the way you address the concern, not limited in scope you were taught by your parents which can come up void with your child. Expand your skill sets in these parenting aspects because they will serve as a valuable resource for the current situation or a future one.

Defense – the two items listed before this strategy can serve as a litmus test when to move this strategy. Listening to your child because there voice is small in the world of an adult. We all have ran into coworkers that we cannot seem to get along with even on our best day. Some folks tolerance is worst that other…. Look for signs of compatibility or behavioral mismatches that could be at the center of the responses. Defense…… Defense……. Defense …….. your child is watching and expecting you to anticipate their needs and know what’s wrong with the environment or situations. Get as knowledge as you can within reason but know your child may gauge your level of effort here and for some may associate it with your level of care. When it’s time, let the defense suit the accusation. Avoid ignorance, become a high powered attorney and defender of your family.

Take action:

In Teaching

In Provision

In Protection

In Presence

In faith

In hope

In love

In advocacy.

Action tied to demonstration is what kids and us adults seem to remember the most. Thoughts flee like a bird but thought, tied to action, compassion and understanding gets cemented in character like a statue. The child will go revisit it at many points in their life till it becomes part of their character in their own family some day.

Kidstrive for the people charged with anticipating their needs to do just that with a level of insight and knowledge unmatched by anyone else.

Reading discomfort in children or need for a change. Some potential signs.

Outward defiance with disregard for consequences at minimum.

Wanting to leave seems obvious but it can present in many different ways. A noticeable uneasiness after given instructions along with mood changes, whining, rude behavior and counter arguments can be the immediate response when children and teens are asked to do something they don’t want to do. Here are a few other notable responses:

Seeking soothing activity by rocking themselves, spinning in chairs, frequently getting up.

Expressing boredom or request to leave.

Seeking screen time which can serve as a temporary means of escape. Netflix, video games, social media or calling a friend.

Checking in repeatedly and sometimes wanting to spend time with you.

All forms of cuddling or request for cuddle at seemingly in opportune times.

Hiding behind or behind the leg of a parent.

Most forms of repetitive behavior at specific times.

Head on the desk in swimmers position when work is assigned.

Massive confusion with loud outburst.

These and many more are some ways how kids express discomfort. When children don’t know the words to express how they are really feeling they give us some signals that we have to pay attention too. Understanding these changes in behavior can allow for better outcomes on task assigned. Take a breath and question why the behavior change, think about all that’s going on in the environment that may have triggered the change.

This can be challenging as a parent because of the routine responses that the negative behavior might trigger in you. The timing is typically never good for you or the family. The child’s behavior may amplify based feedback they receive from their behavior.

Kidstrive to be understood and heard without words.

Note this is not a scientific data analysis but more of some observations from a father.

Safe space. (Revised)

Raising kids can be difficult. Locking cabinets, getting things they can swallow off the floor, as well as keeping doors and window locked are all just the start.

Those who enter your home should all be aware of some of the basic values you hold. Some of these may be said directly and others may be understood by your character. Integrating kids into a household that did not place a priority on these things can be challenging to convert. There may need to be some agreed upon things by the parents and anyone else in regular proximity of the children. They are not fragile but they are valuable. What would you do with valuable things?

Whether you understand or agree with phrases like nature vs nurture that some thing are built in or that the things in our environment influences who we are, may be our responsibility to manage.

The kids all around us are so deserving of your attention. Detail the who, when, what, why, if, how, then, and so many others questions that can have impact in the short and long term of their trajectory. Instilling, encountering and informing them of what to expect, how to navigate some of the things that take time to process as they grow.

Some randomness can add to the grit but randomness requires, the will to sort, the perspective to place things, the strength to endure, the courage to review and manage the information. It’s inevitable that they will encounter a full portion! Let try not to add to this…. Okay have you wondered why living things need specific environments to grow to the very best. Our children needs the same, with parents willing to fiercely protect them and the future. Humans are complicated and little humans can be complicated if you are not looking carefully. Do not take this lightly and become aware of your environment.

Thank you for reading. Just my thoughts!

Kidstrive for one place in the world that they consider to be safe.

How do you make learning less intimidating for a kid.

Filling a child with knowledge and understanding means that you to must be filled in order to pour out. Here are some tips for reaching ones who are losing hope in the status quo.

You need to know the material so well you can relate it to almost anything that might interest them.

Keep them engaged by engaging yourself.

Learn with them while teaching, stretching the idea to reach them usually triggers this type of learning. The stumbling plays a role in humanizing you and letting them know it’s attainable.

Listen to their questions no matter which one might arise. Pivot gracefully and redirect.

Be cheerful, make the agreement for the time agreed or scheduled and it will be obvious your the authority.

Try to keep an open mind and a spirit of wonder. If you don’t believe you have anything to learn in their presence, how can you expect them to have a different posture.

Okay as noted before, play is critical to their growth so let’s play a bit sometimes. When they need a protector, we can be called by that name, a provider and source we will put those hats as well. Stay loose because it can sometimes lead to a feeling that they will never measure up. If we are really honest, they are doing well in such a tome as this in comparison to our past.

Thank you. Kidstive to be smart as you.

#Passion in presence

#If our children only knew we want so much greater for them.