Hope, faith and love

Human made in His image. Body, soul and spirit all working as one to form who we are. When does a child become anxious? Feelings of falling and grasping for air during one of the stages of sleep. Clinging to a parent as though one might me snatched away, watching or hearing stories about the dark and allowing curiosity to lead to seek out more when it is clear it scares you. Hearing and repeating words that are dark against ourselves and the ones we love. It seems it takes us away from the truth and down a path we sometimes need help to come back. Proving that we should not be alone and surrounded in covenant relationships. The hope is that our parents are able to discern these challenges if they appear or as they appear. Teaching the laws in the book because in them there is life as scripture says. Taking our children away from the things we were exposed too is a dangerous experiment. Sunday school and church, praying every night, giving thanks for the food we eat, serving one another and keeping his words throughout our homes and on our lips. Seeking far off cultures for answers and applying those as replacement because the world normalized it. I don’t want to even hint I understand these things but I know how heartbreaking it is to see a child struggling and don’t know how to help ground the child. Jesus explains us best.

I look at the world having spent many years studying science, this amazing tradition of observing the world and documenting it for another to replicate. It does not have the affect of making me question who God is because his words tell me. I am so humbled when I look out on water which is made of two parts hydrogen, the primary element in the sun and oxygen the element that efficiently empowers my blood that holds life. I am deeply humbled by these things as I watch the rains comes down the mountains and through the land purging it and heading towards the sea. Looking deeper at these simple elements amd watching them combine in us as well as on the earth, from the cleansing work through hydrogen peroxide h2o2. Hydrogen, really makes up 75% of the sun? Creating surface temperatures at ~10000 degrees, coincidently similar to the core of our earth that has a similar temperature. All neighbors planets not suitable for life but this 3rd plant protected by O3/ozone that help protects us along with the magnetic field. Gravity pulling the oxygen near so we can breathe the very breath you just took while reading this… and another… I only see a loving God who thought of all these things and spoke them into existence. Only thankfulness and awestruck praise I should have when all things including the stars still praise His work now and forever. My simple understanding can never compare to his thoughts so all questions if I have any comes with joy and wonder like a child wrapped in respect, honor and humility.

May God continue to bless our beautiful nation. Kidstrive hope is to move families towards wholeness.

Becoming a bow

Parents, how many of you want the best for your children? That’s an easy question for most, possibly answered with a short three letter word. Scriptures’ direction for parents are numerous and written with reference to arrows but with emphasis on us being better first. Better in our relation with our Heavenly Father and our neighbors/people alike.

I am no archer but I have shot a few arrows mostly in a range setting. Grabbing the bow and arrow felt awkward for me at first possibly because I am left handed but more so due to lack of understanding. Compound bows, recurved bows, long bows and crossbows. In my thinking of bows and what they can do the crossbows and compound bows appear to shot the arrow the furthest. I attribute this speed and distance it shoots its arrows, in relation to the range of skills a parent might need to help a child cover the greatest distance with speed and accuracy. As parents, we sometimes have to add to our knowledge if we want to engage in some passions our children present. Being thankful for a child’s gift is easily praise worthy for most but as they moves through to higher levels our knowledge sometimes need to be expanded to keep engagement high. Council and selected advisors appear to be essential when going to battle especially the unknown. The arrow must be prepared, able to stand as an agent with all the foundational principles and values that forge the unshakable character that’s necessary.

When a child prefers to be a bit more cautious possibly timid, we know to not let them stray to far from us. In addition if the child is daring before having mastered self control. I equate a long bow as the more appropriate type of parenting style. Quick draw to shoot but more likely for shorter distances. Pointing our children to new skills and attributes that can be developed and implemented quickly for practice. Easily within our sites for support and correction when needed. This does not mean the child is any less capable, it just means they may still need the parent for some executive functioning skills, distractibility from mission by the wind along with possible hands-on type resources. The recurve bow may be the next step up from the long bow when slightly larger goals are in sight but more polish still would be beneficial before full agency.

Knowing which bow you are currently and strengthen yourself as the bow is essential. Both parents unified in their efforts will be better equipped to know which bow is best as compared to the additional challenge with division. There is only so much we can do as parent and it’s just as important to know when additional support is necessary. Our circle needs to be tight in their understanding of the role each plays in a child’s life compared to another. Making sure to extend our tolerances for each other as they bring their unique individual gifts and talents.

As the word notes love is the greatest.

It’s difficult to know exactly where our children will be in the future but there is hope; it allows us to dream good dreams for our children until they receive the vision we can support. One thing worth noting that for most, the gifts that a child hold appears first to parents even before the child recognizes it and we are tasked with nurturing and developing them whether it’s many or just one. How far can we bend our bow’s appears to be an important piece in preparation for purpose, both us and them.

Kidstrive to fly like arrows

Power of routine

Have you ever went outside of your routine to do something leisurely beneficial or overall self gratifying. You may find that the typical first instinct is to want to try putting that time or activity again.

This appears to be similar to what occurs when a child is given the freedom to go outside their established routine, if established. What I mean is that for most kids, if you allow the opportunity to go past their bed for something they enjoy doing they may want more. Surprised? I am thinking that your not. Children need the structure to aid in keeping them at their best for activities that have higher value. It may seem obvious but one may say it’s only one night but the cost can compound. Teens can be more susceptible because they may think they can manage on only a few hours of sleep. I don’t think mentioning the importance of sleep is needed here.

Emphasize the importance of routine. In fact demonstrating it may have even more value. I will leave out the negatives of lack of sleep and structure can have on a Child’s class activities and overall engagement.

Hopefully this short point is helpful to someone because who wouldn’t want to grant a child’s easy request that you can accommodate with little to know effort. As some might say, “ give a person an inch, they will take a yard.”

Kid strive to create lifelong disciplines that last and that are beneficial.

Elemental love

Existing as an uncombined chemical element. That’s Webster’s dictionary definition. Our children displays this in the way they love, wrapped in joy and wonder, so deservingly of our protection and devotion. The enthusiasm we bring although rooted in the pure can get tainted by our hurts, fears and pain we sometimes have or are currently experiencing.

The danger here is when we sometimes take up in defense of this love against others that love the child as well. The circles that encapsulates these children all add to a child having all that they need to grow. If you find ourself denying love from the other parent of the child, grand parents, aunts, uncles, teachers, healthcare providers or anyone who expresses genuine care we should look within. Are we denying the love because of a hurt we feel that was done to us by that person? Essentially withholding access to support that another may be willing to offer.

Care is an aspect of love similar to correction that is essential in the growth of a child. Don’t get me wrong in acknowledging the role of the parent / primary care giver. The input where another agrees in a matter that is beneficial and aligned with the principles that a child needs should not be denied based solely on a bias. Especially in the case of an individual that is expected to care or has consistently demonstrated that they love the child as well.

Let’s take a good look at ourselves and recognize when we are pushing others away and rejecting love in essence to try and repair something broken. I am aware how challenging these matters can be when children are involved but understand some of what makes a child love so pure. I for one cannot begin to measure it or place a value on it to tag it for compensation. In fact no one can. This is a humble opinion that what if love is tied to our purpose, just like flight can be considered the purpose of a bird. Especially in the role of a steward of this special little person over this journey of life. I am taking aback by the gravity of who this little one will become and pray all the paths for them are straight.

Kidstrive to absorb and grow in love in the purest of forms to that charges in the direction of purpose.

Sterring

Who steered you? What were your influences? Whose opinion is valid and relevant? Are there parts of you that wants to go it’s own way? Steering ourselves can be difficult, so imagine if your child is …

Sterring

How exactly do we improve, is it consistent repetition or the love of learning or receiving reproach with an open heart in the areas we can be better.

I am not sure how exactly one learns to love correction but I assume it starts with love, respect and honor from whom the sound advice comes be it any person no matter the age or status. I suspect that demonstration this is crucial to their success because it feels like a large part of us sometimes wants to go the way of pride and rebel against any sort of correction.

Humbly, pride appears to be a bigger risk because it can usually show up before one rebels. Steering our children in what’s right clearly is best represented when the words that we speak positively affects the way that we live, revealing what truly is inside our hearts. Let’s fill our selves with what is right not what we believe to be right because depending on our source, it’s probably wrong. The main reason is because there is only One source for truth, all others are lies. Check your Source.

Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/pro.5.18.nlt

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/mal.2.15.nlt

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/ecc.12.1.nlt

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/rut.4.15.nlt

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

Keeping our children safe.

Protecting the light. Light is void of darkness

How can we convince our children that the rules we have are there to keep them safe?

Is there something we could say, or do, or maybe we have lost something ourselves and are in need of direction? Right, what do we know if we don’t know the Truth.

Should we tell them to listen to us because we love them. What about what their friends say? Do we do it by stating or explaining what laws are and agents assigned to help enforce that law in our society will cover us all? Do we plead with them or by giving them all the desires they have and they ones they muster in their hearts? This list can go on for a long time…. and is any of it affective consistently. Demonstration of the effectiveness of a united, collective system walking out the Law in each and ever family is the only way we can ensure safety to the foundation. Just like we are loved that we inherit a beautiful planet/home that was created in a system with all that it needs, void of nothing and shielded from the darkness. So we should create and maintain the foundation of family we received so our children can inherit a world filled with life and growth.

This is only a theory, if we teach that the law is there to maintain foundation principles in a society not to win our personal agenda cases. They are there because the people we love, we protect. Through love, love flourishes and then radiates to penetrate the heart / subconscious mind of another in order to do it all again. This precious love filled with the truth, and void of contaminants that lead a society in the wrong direction. Things that are anti to truth and love breeds lies that are dangerous to life, purpose and our identities and that of our children. darkness being the absence of light has no power over light but yet still wants to participate in light knowing that it could never be light. Parents allow the light to fill your home keeping darkness at bay. It has no power here.

Instead teach them to be agents of the one true Teacher. Kidstrive to perpetuate love and life from one family to another so that no one should be in the darkness, absent of light. All worthy of a chance to be welcomed.

How can water carve with its power but be contaminated with a drop of ink. And then there is hope.

Attempting to answer the questions of a child, with love.

We are all children when attempting to navigate complex questions in our world.

My condolences for all who have lost and experience pain through our current challenges.

In an attempt to formulate an answer to the image above:

Because the hardest thing to do is to change a persons mind. You have to convince and possibly demonstrate why they should leave that ism (system/construct) and enter/forge a new one based in truth which deals in value. How do you make this a value to another.

And all of this has to be done in love.

Being Real makes a person stand their ground which have lead to wars. They then never really accept it in their hearts.
It’s not something you can force on a person.

Why or how does a person take a position such as this?

Because as free beings we get to choose. Those choices can be corrupted by the world and some environments we find ourselves. The ugliness that stems from that is dark. The only thing to extinguishes darkness is light 💡.


Jesus is, and is the only one who has explained my heart and yours. It’s the only way to avoid hate that is part of the thing that corrupts a heart. We are unable to mange hate. History has proven that…….

Kidstrive to move out of negative constructs and into the Kingdom.

Patterns of expression and understanding

Kids show patterns of behavior that you can learn from similar to adults. Here are a few to look out for..

  • Wanting more – when a child is asking for more, it’s in your best interest to do a needs assessment. The current condition can be masked by a desired condition. Remember that they can be expert negotiators. Excess can be challenging to withdraw once introduced. Giving has greater than consuming, gathers and storing.
  • Correction – directly tied to discipline is must for all children and teens. The morals and values you hold and teach within the home as well as demonstrate are essential for the success of the application. These should be tested via the Word (biblical) and nothing else if you want to maintain consistency. Kid will notice when you pivot y what you feel is right. It can be extremely confusing to children.
  • Sleep as an individual category plays a crucial role in their growth. Keeping a routine in all seasons will reap great rewards for you. Avoid using this as a treat because they tend to want to earn it. This should be held as a standard with every effort. Children and teens psychological and physiological well being can be Directly traced to things like stress, anxiety, performance, irritably and many others including overall health. Speak with their teachers and other care givers regarding their behavior and performance with specific questions. You will have to all the teacher to speak freely without generalizing their overall well-being.
  • Sharing and turn taking. This can be best address through the second bullet. Practicing and application of turn taking are critical to friendship and integration, so it’s important that it’s applied among family and siblings. Apply the moral and value principles directly to the games or home activities in order for them to be locked together in memory with the action. (Kindness, courtesy, gentleness, joy and appreciation for the company to play and the activity itself.
  • Areas of avoidance – look for verbal avoidance, argumentative behavior and negotiations for any activity when it’s even mentioned. Watch for clinging or brushing up against or touching parents and caregiver in the time of the activity. Head bowing, lack of eye contact, mumbling, silence, defiance, tears, shaking and several other behavioral cues can be seen in teens into young adults.
  • Lack of Joy and zeal – Be very observant to your children when you see a drastic change in behavior that leads to long periods of neutral to sad behavior regardless of age. Kids are typically filled with joy and can generate it instantaneously; when this is not present or consistently not present, it can be due to several factors. Here are some possible scenarios: drastic change to their environment, change in relationships, changes in close foundational relationships with or among family.

This list is not comprehensive but only a few patterns that we should be on the vigilant look out for in our kids and their friends. (Yes, observe the behaviors of their friends as often as you have the chance.)

Please seek guidance from your faith based, community circles and professional help if any of these and others are associated with the precious children in your circle. These causes and situations associated can be disturbing to many and should be addressed. I hope this severs as a guide on your journey.

Kidstrive for someone to understand and help address their concerns.

Love emerging on its journey to merging to complete.

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  • It’s consistently looking for ways to bring and maintain Joy within his or her home that overflows, spills out and cannot be contained.
  • It’s respecting others not for what they do or don’t do; its doing solely for who they are in a commitment.
  • Enduring all trials and tribulations because of your agreement.
  • Looking upon another and recognizing the love that’s within is pure and worthy to die to protect.
  • Putting asides feelings that do not originate from truth because there is only One. Serving as a Stewart to help guide as the person gets ready to soar in there assigned purpose.
  • Disciplining in love, not by what we feel to be right but sourced from and with Grace and Truth. Holding the values close to your heart to ready it for handing it to another.
  • Speaking words of life, hope and love to all you encounter with the courage to stand up, stop and correct wickedness done to others.
  • Allowing love to reign through every stage of growth and navigation of the desires of the heart.
  • Forming partnership in an ultimate collaborative atmosphere void of envy, bragging and strife.
  • Preparing little ones with the respect and duty to the spirit within, serving as a gentle guide and protector of pure innocence.
  • Giving generously while taking prudent steps that can and will be applied tomorrow.

Kidstrive to know the truth about love and who it rest in.

Words in contrast and association for the family to get understanding

  • Faith and Fear – Peace
  • Truth and lies – justice
  • Honor, respect and glory
  • Wise and Foolish
  • Knowledge, understanding and wisdom
  • Will and Self control.

Be aware when reviewing, it’s helpful to research these preconceived knowledge and if there is, place it through what the books of the Bible says. The dictionary can serve for cultural and historical context but you may be surprised by the congruence.

Hopefully they serve as good discussion and insight for your family.

Learning as your child learns by teaching at home away from school?

Take a deep breath, we can do it parents.

One or two of you may have attempted to teach your child at home, probably with mixed experiences. Here a few sites that can aid in their learning.

PhET labs – a good place to start for science and math. https://phet.colorado.edu This may go along well with your existing understanding of a topic where you and your child can seek the answer using a text book, Wikipedia or other resources.

Mathgames https://teks.mathgames.com is a site and app for elementary or middle schoolers to get quick feedback as to whether they have mastered a concept with 10 questions for practice. (education standards supported) Works well with khanacademy. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/khan-academy/id469863705

Science journal by Google is a great way to explore your environment with your kid using digital devices like Apple or Android products. It uses the tech built into the devices like the accelerometer, compass, collect light measurements from various colors, recoding sound frequency and intensity along with many others. This works well for all ages with some sort of support text to explain and connect the concepts. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/science-journal-by-google/id1251205555

Hopefully these sites and applications are a fun place to start. An effective strategy is to focus on teaching objectives and concepts tied to thier current knowledge and understanding. A general sense of intrigue lead by you may help bring out their sense of wonder. Learning together even at varying levels may have some benefits as well.

Let’s use these and other opportunities to gain insight on what direction to point our kids based on their interest and aptitude.

Kidstrive for growth and opportunities.