Becoming a bow

Parents, how many of you want the best for your children? That’s an easy question for most, possibly answered with a short three letter word. Scriptures’ direction for parents are numerous and written with reference to arrows but with emphasis on us being better first. Better in our relation with our Heavenly Father and our neighbors/people alike.

I am no archer but I have shot a few arrows mostly in a range setting. Grabbing the bow and arrow felt awkward for me at first possibly because I am left handed but more so due to lack of understanding. Compound bows, recurved bows, long bows and crossbows. In my thinking of bows and what they can do the crossbows and compound bows appear to shot the arrow the furthest. I attribute this speed and distance it shoots its arrows, in relation to the range of skills a parent might need to help a child cover the greatest distance with speed and accuracy. As parents, we sometimes have to add to our knowledge if we want to engage in some passions our children present. Being thankful for a child’s gift is easily praise worthy for most but as they moves through to higher levels our knowledge sometimes need to be expanded to keep engagement high. Council and selected advisors appear to be essential when going to battle especially the unknown. The arrow must be prepared, able to stand as an agent with all the foundational principles and values that forge the unshakable character that’s necessary.

When a child prefers to be a bit more cautious possibly timid, we know to not let them stray to far from us. In addition if the child is daring before having mastered self control. I equate a long bow as the more appropriate type of parenting style. Quick draw to shoot but more likely for shorter distances. Pointing our children to new skills and attributes that can be developed and implemented quickly for practice. Easily within our sites for support and correction when needed. This does not mean the child is any less capable, it just means they may still need the parent for some executive functioning skills, distractibility from mission by the wind along with possible hands-on type resources. The recurve bow may be the next step up from the long bow when slightly larger goals are in sight but more polish still would be beneficial before full agency.

Knowing which bow you are currently and strengthen yourself as the bow is essential. Both parents unified in their efforts will be better equipped to know which bow is best as compared to the additional challenge with division. There is only so much we can do as parent and it’s just as important to know when additional support is necessary. Our circle needs to be tight in their understanding of the role each plays in a child’s life compared to another. Making sure to extend our tolerances for each other as they bring their unique individual gifts and talents.

As the word notes love is the greatest.

It’s difficult to know exactly where our children will be in the future but there is hope; it allows us to dream good dreams for our children until they receive the vision we can support. One thing worth noting that for most, the gifts that a child hold appears first to parents even before the child recognizes it and we are tasked with nurturing and developing them whether it’s many or just one. How far can we bend our bow’s appears to be an important piece in preparation for purpose, both us and them.

Kidstrive to fly like arrows

Elemental love

Existing as an uncombined chemical element. That’s Webster’s dictionary definition. Our children displays this in the way they love, wrapped in joy and wonder, so deservingly of our protection and devotion. The enthusiasm we bring although rooted in the pure can get tainted by our hurts, fears and pain we sometimes have or are currently experiencing.

The danger here is when we sometimes take up in defense of this love against others that love the child as well. The circles that encapsulates these children all add to a child having all that they need to grow. If you find ourself denying love from the other parent of the child, grand parents, aunts, uncles, teachers, healthcare providers or anyone who expresses genuine care we should look within. Are we denying the love because of a hurt we feel that was done to us by that person? Essentially withholding access to support that another may be willing to offer.

Care is an aspect of love similar to correction that is essential in the growth of a child. Don’t get me wrong in acknowledging the role of the parent / primary care giver. The input where another agrees in a matter that is beneficial and aligned with the principles that a child needs should not be denied based solely on a bias. Especially in the case of an individual that is expected to care or has consistently demonstrated that they love the child as well.

Let’s take a good look at ourselves and recognize when we are pushing others away and rejecting love in essence to try and repair something broken. I am aware how challenging these matters can be when children are involved but understand some of what makes a child love so pure. I for one cannot begin to measure it or place a value on it to tag it for compensation. In fact no one can. This is a humble opinion that what if love is tied to our purpose, just like flight can be considered the purpose of a bird. Especially in the role of a steward of this special little person over this journey of life. I am taking aback by the gravity of who this little one will become and pray all the paths for them are straight.

Kidstrive to absorb and grow in love in the purest of forms to that charges in the direction of purpose.

Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/pro.5.18.nlt

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/mal.2.15.nlt

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/ecc.12.1.nlt

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/rut.4.15.nlt

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

Keeping our children safe.

Protecting the light. Light is void of darkness

How can we convince our children that the rules we have are there to keep them safe?

Is there something we could say, or do, or maybe we have lost something ourselves and are in need of direction? Right, what do we know if we don’t know the Truth.

Should we tell them to listen to us because we love them. What about what their friends say? Do we do it by stating or explaining what laws are and agents assigned to help enforce that law in our society will cover us all? Do we plead with them or by giving them all the desires they have and they ones they muster in their hearts? This list can go on for a long time…. and is any of it affective consistently. Demonstration of the effectiveness of a united, collective system walking out the Law in each and ever family is the only way we can ensure safety to the foundation. Just like we are loved that we inherit a beautiful planet/home that was created in a system with all that it needs, void of nothing and shielded from the darkness. So we should create and maintain the foundation of family we received so our children can inherit a world filled with life and growth.

This is only a theory, if we teach that the law is there to maintain foundation principles in a society not to win our personal agenda cases. They are there because the people we love, we protect. Through love, love flourishes and then radiates to penetrate the heart / subconscious mind of another in order to do it all again. This precious love filled with the truth, and void of contaminants that lead a society in the wrong direction. Things that are anti to truth and love breeds lies that are dangerous to life, purpose and our identities and that of our children. darkness being the absence of light has no power over light but yet still wants to participate in light knowing that it could never be light. Parents allow the light to fill your home keeping darkness at bay. It has no power here.

Instead teach them to be agents of the one true Teacher. Kidstrive to perpetuate love and life from one family to another so that no one should be in the darkness, absent of light. All worthy of a chance to be welcomed.

How can water carve with its power but be contaminated with a drop of ink. And then there is hope.

Patterns of expression and understanding

Kids show patterns of behavior that you can learn from similar to adults. Here are a few to look out for..

  • Wanting more – when a child is asking for more, it’s in your best interest to do a needs assessment. The current condition can be masked by a desired condition. Remember that they can be expert negotiators. Excess can be challenging to withdraw once introduced. Giving has greater than consuming, gathers and storing.
  • Correction – directly tied to discipline is must for all children and teens. The morals and values you hold and teach within the home as well as demonstrate are essential for the success of the application. These should be tested via the Word (biblical) and nothing else if you want to maintain consistency. Kid will notice when you pivot y what you feel is right. It can be extremely confusing to children.
  • Sleep as an individual category plays a crucial role in their growth. Keeping a routine in all seasons will reap great rewards for you. Avoid using this as a treat because they tend to want to earn it. This should be held as a standard with every effort. Children and teens psychological and physiological well being can be Directly traced to things like stress, anxiety, performance, irritably and many others including overall health. Speak with their teachers and other care givers regarding their behavior and performance with specific questions. You will have to all the teacher to speak freely without generalizing their overall well-being.
  • Sharing and turn taking. This can be best address through the second bullet. Practicing and application of turn taking are critical to friendship and integration, so it’s important that it’s applied among family and siblings. Apply the moral and value principles directly to the games or home activities in order for them to be locked together in memory with the action. (Kindness, courtesy, gentleness, joy and appreciation for the company to play and the activity itself.
  • Areas of avoidance – look for verbal avoidance, argumentative behavior and negotiations for any activity when it’s even mentioned. Watch for clinging or brushing up against or touching parents and caregiver in the time of the activity. Head bowing, lack of eye contact, mumbling, silence, defiance, tears, shaking and several other behavioral cues can be seen in teens into young adults.
  • Lack of Joy and zeal – Be very observant to your children when you see a drastic change in behavior that leads to long periods of neutral to sad behavior regardless of age. Kids are typically filled with joy and can generate it instantaneously; when this is not present or consistently not present, it can be due to several factors. Here are some possible scenarios: drastic change to their environment, change in relationships, changes in close foundational relationships with or among family.

This list is not comprehensive but only a few patterns that we should be on the vigilant look out for in our kids and their friends. (Yes, observe the behaviors of their friends as often as you have the chance.)

Please seek guidance from your faith based, community circles and professional help if any of these and others are associated with the precious children in your circle. These causes and situations associated can be disturbing to many and should be addressed. I hope this severs as a guide on your journey.

Kidstrive for someone to understand and help address their concerns.

Love emerging on its journey to merging to complete.

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  • It’s consistently looking for ways to bring and maintain Joy within his or her home that overflows, spills out and cannot be contained.
  • It’s respecting others not for what they do or don’t do; its doing solely for who they are in a commitment.
  • Enduring all trials and tribulations because of your agreement.
  • Looking upon another and recognizing the love that’s within is pure and worthy to die to protect.
  • Putting asides feelings that do not originate from truth because there is only One. Serving as a Stewart to help guide as the person gets ready to soar in there assigned purpose.
  • Disciplining in love, not by what we feel to be right but sourced from and with Grace and Truth. Holding the values close to your heart to ready it for handing it to another.
  • Speaking words of life, hope and love to all you encounter with the courage to stand up, stop and correct wickedness done to others.
  • Allowing love to reign through every stage of growth and navigation of the desires of the heart.
  • Forming partnership in an ultimate collaborative atmosphere void of envy, bragging and strife.
  • Preparing little ones with the respect and duty to the spirit within, serving as a gentle guide and protector of pure innocence.
  • Giving generously while taking prudent steps that can and will be applied tomorrow.

Kidstrive to know the truth about love and who it rest in.

Words in contrast and association for the family to get understanding

  • Faith and Fear – Peace
  • Truth and lies – justice
  • Honor, respect and glory
  • Wise and Foolish
  • Knowledge, understanding and wisdom
  • Will and Self control.

Be aware when reviewing, it’s helpful to research these preconceived knowledge and if there is, place it through what the books of the Bible says. The dictionary can serve for cultural and historical context but you may be surprised by the congruence.

Hopefully they serve as good discussion and insight for your family.

Children and families in service to others.

Can we as parents and families demonstrate work in service to others?

Some ways that may help are:

  • Keeping regulars family meetings discussing service and plans to serve.
  • Volunteer routinely in your community or place of worship even if they can only be present for now as little ones.
  • Refrain from speaking ill about others in your home.
  • Discussing challenges as they appear at school.
  • Make every efforts to put situations and responses through the word of God so they know what’s right and expected.
  • Talk to them about things that hurt them to witness and what solutions could possibly make a difference.
  • Demonstrate eye contact, handshakes and how to love friend sand people encountered.
  • Sign up for group volunteering opportunities to participate as a family.
  • When money is received from gifts or earnings, have them put away a portion for charitable work.
  • Practice writing thank you cards or creating things they made with their hands as a way of saying thanks for gifts received.
  • Have them help around the home even if it’s putting the placemats on the dinner table for all.

These are only a few things but these and many others are ways we can demonstrate giving. It appears to be best implemented early and often as a way of life.

I would love to hear your suggestions on what things you and your family have done.

Kidstrive to serve!

Words for the family

Here are a few words to discuss with your family.

  • Savior
  • kingdom
  • inheritance
  • Entangled
  • fortress
  • slave
  • Blameless
  • Honor
  • Man
  • Human

Kidstrive to get to the root for understanding.

What if your kid said their tummy hurts?

When is there a real problem? When a child says again and again they have a headache, stomach cramps, or simply panicking uncontrollably.

Some of these can start from the avoidance of thing or activity. Can a child experience trauma if forced to do something they are verbally expressing disdain? The answer is somewhere along the lines that it depends. Stress can be an emotional response from simple dislike to something rooted in fear. Our interaction with the things we encounter is securely tied to our response to it.

We have to seek help and be on the look out for stress moving to greater physical responses.

Guard their senses from the wickedness in the world until they are mature enough. Sometimes what our eyes see and hear can amplify the effect of a thing based on how we imagine it. Preparing them is rooted in One Source.

Kidstrive for guidance.

Can’t wait to speak

What if we felt like we were never heard. Everyone seen like someone to hide complex things from. Children and teens would understand things if the language was translated or spoken in words they knew. Their voice and cries going unnoticed because their words too are not understood. It possibly would be like a citizen of a foreign land that enjoyed Arnold Schwarzenegger movies but unable to understand the language without the subtitles.

Our understanding of things as human beings young or old can are all digestible but only if prepared correctly and we possess the equipment necessary to engage. Babies consume carrots in a purée form because the digestive system is entirely not ready for carrots in the raw, carrots sliced, baked roasted or in any other form that require teeth and saliva as the basic components of digestion. With all that being said they still eat the same carrot. The denial of the basic understanding of a unit is not something we get to withhold from children. A child having to be shared by parents is complex for adults as is, please don’t think if it is masked with niceties that a clear level of explanation will not be needed. Children need answers just as much as we do and dislike when they don’t have it just like us but possibly in a worst way. The formation of identity is a delicate process that by any measure seems to be best done when rooted in stability. The countless reasons for separations is not one to take likely when it involves so much hurt, so please know that this is not written to add to anyone’s pain. I like most, don’t like to see anyone suffer so my prayers go out to you.

Instead this is to bring to light the cries of the child, teen and young person. The sensitive subject that this is calls for an awareness that the children involved have a tremendously difficult time with this because of all the obvious reasons. But imagine that you were placed in a strangers home and a sheet was tossed over your head while having to navigate the entire home. Kids going through this tend to experience something akin to this in my humble opinion. Grace to them……

As parents adults, we must be mindful to speak the truth to our little ones in an age appropriate language that they can understand. Please hear the message that the things hidden eventually come to the light so take the time to identify them just like you would identify a lion or any other dangerous thing to a child.

The changes to these fundamental parts of life are important in growth and development so let’s love our children and teach them truth because there is only one.

Hopefully these words, though not easy, can serve another. The children carry all the DNA of the two that are divided so one could only imagine the feelings of a child with limited understanding when their flesh is torn. With a clear mind observe their behavior because that is the only way you may know. Their words will not be comprehendible.

My thoughts and prayers goes out to all the children and families affected by this storm but like all storms that come in there severity, it too will pass. Please turn to God in or out of the storm. Love each other even when we must walk separate paths.

Kidstrive to be oriented in the direction they should go when part of their world was destroyed.

Words, concepts and phrases for the family to understand.

Kidstrive to understand tough questions and to see you walk in security and belief that the sun will rise and fall and rise again daily. Whose promises?

  • Fulfilled
  • Full belly
  • What gases make up the sun?
  • What is believed to be the core temperature of the earth as it relates to the sun?
  • How does electrons behave in relation to how the earth revolves around the sun and the moon around the a earth?
  • Firmament?
  • What does cloud feel like and can I hold on to it?
  • What do fishes breathe and what’s there purpose?
  • What can eagles do in a storm?
  • Why does turbulence occur in flight and what does it have to do with temperature?
  • Does heat affect the pressure of a thing and how?
  • How big are the roots of a plant and what must die for the tree to live?
  • How much pounds of pressure is on every inch of our bodies?
  • How is the surface of the ocean relate to the edge of space and the depth of the ocean to where we are at at sea level?
  • Why do animals migrate and what does it have to do with water?
  • Where does water come from and where does it go?
  • Where did the word human come from?