Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

What does it mean to be a child?

Part of a whole

To want the best for all and see no one harmed?

To possess the nature of innocence ?

Is it to live in a world of wonder and curiosity?

To love and be loved because it’s in you, around you and besides you without effort, and through the love that got you here?

Could it be possessing the capacity to learn because your heart is still pliable?

Expected belief of being fed without worry?

Seeking direction clearly stated direction and demonstration of obedience by the ones you love with clear connection to the Source of rules?

Learning how to navigate through play, serving, sharing and others things that are pure all coalescing into a family, Neihbourhood, community, nation and the world.

To know you are protected so that you can walk in the authority given onto you.

Or is it to be sure of your true north, as certain as the magnetic fields pointing to it. All serving as witness along with the atmosphere placing ~14 lbs of pressure enveloping you in security.

Kidstrive to know what it means to be a child.

10 Questions like a child.

Is/Why/What/How/When/Who …… love the only form of restoration for all thing to it’s original state?

Should we be conserved when children are unable to express joy?

Do all things in our world pass through some form of darkness to become light?

What does it mean to have a will?

If parents are divided what becomes of the things they produce?

Should a society be dynamic or should it be in the constraints of law?

Do words hold the power to create or destroy our worlds. Is their only one?

What is a medium; water, air, soil, our souls?

Can you truly chain the mind of another, or better question does access have to be granted by our hearts first?

Expected hope

Kidstrive to know is the path to understanding.


Gather your family and teach them the truth even when it’s uncomfortable. Family devotion and time together to know our Father’s word are critically important. It is essential for the devolpment of our children as well as ours. So hold your family close to introduce, expose, guide, demonstrate Jesus to your family so our children can witness first hand how much we as parents depend on our Heavenly Father.

Is it that the more we avoid the truth, we believe everything else?

Having been a husband and parent for some time now, I know that I am a mere steward for my family and that I surrender it all to Him.

Are you looking for a positive change in your family?

Kidstrive Blog.

Attempting to answer the questions of a child, with love.

We are all children when attempting to navigate complex questions in our world.

My condolences for all who have lost and experience pain through our current challenges.

In an attempt to formulate an answer to the image above:

Because the hardest thing to do is to change a persons mind. You have to convince and possibly demonstrate why they should leave that ism (system/construct) and enter/forge a new one based in truth which deals in value. How do you make this a value to another.

And all of this has to be done in love.

Being Real makes a person stand their ground which have lead to wars. They then never really accept it in their hearts.
It’s not something you can force on a person.

Why or how does a person take a position such as this?

Because as free beings we get to choose. Those choices can be corrupted by the world and some environments we find ourselves. The ugliness that stems from that is dark. The only thing to extinguishes darkness is light 💡.

Jesus is, and is the only one who has explained my heart and yours. It’s the only way to avoid hate that is part of the thing that corrupts a heart. We are unable to mange hate. History has proven that…….

Kidstrive to move out of negative constructs and into the Kingdom.


Who steered you? What were your influences? Whose opinion is valid and relevant?

Steering ourselves can be difficult, so imagine if your child is looking to you to learn how to drive a car or tie a bow tie, or ease/avoid the pain of loosing a friend. My thought is that children are constantly looking and actively seeking direction but some of the places they get the answers are not expected. When teaching a teen to drive there are several rules you may lay out for them based on your own experience and tied into the laws that govern your area. To a child the list of things may seem large and endless but the teacher may list them off easily as the child throws question after question. Well, until the child ask some of the more complex question like how to parallel park, or how to do a three point turn with cars on both sides of the street. As the teacher you may have to go take a peep at the rule book / driving instruction manual online.

Steering our youth takes a consistent instruction manual because responding based on what you believe to be right can go devastatingly wrong given the scenario. Placing them in front of experts, the best experts money can buy may help in some challenges, but can be pointless if the child’s values does not line up with the instructor. What if letting them know that you’re there for them is not enough. We have only one true instructor and one rule book that can correct, and one comforter to steer us through the most challenging battles. When our strength, our finances, our security are seemingly not enough for that new situation that seems to have blindsided our homes. Jesus is our Lord, peace and truth. The bible filled and overflowing with instructions for all that we encounter should be our source. I, one dad, one husband, one brother, one uncle, one son, one friend, one citizen, one worker, am never enough on my own. The battles I have encountered and the testimony I have are surely not of strength.

I remember being present in the room as my wife gave birth to our first child, and how helpless one feels when we know that we cannot protect this little one from all the things the world can throw. Surrendering the gift back to the one who gave it is all I knew. This was not easy by any means, it came through countless hours of thought in the deepest places of my mind like so many other men do. Dads draw to silence, Dads weep on the inside rarely outwardly, Dads work with their hands and minds, summing the will to provide, secure and protect. At times, feeling like a boy, feeling of inadequacy, feeling of doubt while the world keeps going. How can I steer anyone in this state. My life and the lives of my family, my love, my future and the future of my family all rest in Him. All Praise and Glory and Honor to my Heavenly Father who it all belongs to. Steer me towards your will.

Kidstrive to be steered in the right direction.

Love emerging on its journey to merging to complete.

Pixabay image
  • It’s consistently looking for ways to bring and maintain Joy within his or her home that overflows, spills out and cannot be contained.
  • It’s respecting others not for what they do or don’t do; its doing solely for who they are in a commitment.
  • Enduring all trials and tribulations because of your agreement.
  • Looking upon another and recognizing the love that’s within is pure and worthy to die to protect.
  • Putting asides feelings that do not originate from truth because there is only One. Serving as a Stewart to help guide as the person gets ready to soar in there assigned purpose.
  • Disciplining in love, not by what we feel to be right but sourced from and with Grace and Truth. Holding the values close to your heart to ready it for handing it to another.
  • Speaking words of life, hope and love to all you encounter with the courage to stand up, stop and correct wickedness done to others.
  • Allowing love to reign through every stage of growth and navigation of the desires of the heart.
  • Forming partnership in an ultimate collaborative atmosphere void of envy, bragging and strife.
  • Preparing little ones with the respect and duty to the spirit within, serving as a gentle guide and protector of pure innocence.
  • Giving generously while taking prudent steps that can and will be applied tomorrow.

Kidstrive to know the truth about love and who it rest in.

Children and families in service to others.

Can we as parents and families demonstrate work in service to others?

Some ways that may help are:

  • Keeping regulars family meetings discussing service and plans to serve.
  • Volunteer routinely in your community or place of worship even if they can only be present for now as little ones.
  • Refrain from speaking ill about others in your home.
  • Discussing challenges as they appear at school.
  • Make every efforts to put situations and responses through the word of God so they know what’s right and expected.
  • Talk to them about things that hurt them to witness and what solutions could possibly make a difference.
  • Demonstrate eye contact, handshakes and how to love friend sand people encountered.
  • Sign up for group volunteering opportunities to participate as a family.
  • When money is received from gifts or earnings, have them put away a portion for charitable work.
  • Practice writing thank you cards or creating things they made with their hands as a way of saying thanks for gifts received.
  • Have them help around the home even if it’s putting the placemats on the dinner table for all.

These are only a few things but these and many others are ways we can demonstrate giving. It appears to be best implemented early and often as a way of life.

I would love to hear your suggestions on what things you and your family have done.

Kidstrive to serve!

Shooting Arrows (updated)

Children carry our DNA and that’s not even the half of it. What they carry in essence are an essential part of what it means to be human!

Kidstrive to honor their parents and serve their purpose by perpetual proliferation of the love they received multiplied.

Training today for Tomorrow.

Kids need adults to shield and protect them as they grow. This is an understanding known by all that love kids and have some of their own. The hope for tomorrow is also tremendously important when raising kids. As we demonstrate skills for survival as well as skills based on their interest and the built in abilities present in each child, we prepare them for the future by doing training reps in the present. For example, if a child is really good with numbers, give them greater ability in the world of accounting. (Balancing, deduction, principle, investment) If a child has a perpensity for service, let them serve others through volunteering and outreach.

Putting any two skills you think they might be good at could lead to the unleashing of a gift. If you can identify two more things that you perform and demonstrate daily that they can see, they could possibly do great things fairly early. They will show the ability to go out and complete complex task if you send them in that direction. Staying attentive to the basic underlining skills that pop almost naturally is a great place to start a child. They are typically successful in that thing and the success builds confidence the confidence defuses complexity and fosters endurance. Keep shooting them in that direction adding skills to the things they perform well and you will build skills that will never leave them in the future.

When all these things are applied coupled with positive words and affirmations in and from those that love that child, hope in tomorrow develops. Planning and discipline seems to increase as a result.

Test these things on your children or children under your care and watch their character build. I would love to hear your feedback if you believe these things could work.

#Kidstrive for hope in tomorrow!

Adding value to our children.

What if a child did what we did? Can we allow nothing to be hidden from our children. Are there things in our lives, secret things that we would not want our children to see or to know about us? How can we be better as fathers? These are all heavy questions that might not be easily answered for some of us. Giving little ones who carry our genetic information a gift is what all fathers want to do. We should allow our children to mimic us and to do what we do, this way we could possibly make our way to greater.

A good man leaves and inheritance to his children’s children. What good thing can we leave that last that long?

A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.

The next question can our children be trusted with the inheritance. All that I have belongs to my children and would like to play a role in preparing them for managing it by being a good manager myself. Our children find tremendous value in themselves when we as parents can place our full trust in them and their ability to make decisions.

We must provide work that can be handed down to them because they can receive our jobs. The work must be established through our vision and dreams for our family. Ownership is a good way to ensure it can be passed but its through understanding it can be truly established. Parents must consistently demonstrate the values, morals, knowledge and applied skills so that our children are well equipped to manage any inheritance. In time the work, and all the responsibility as well the ability to make decision should be able to be passed to our children with our unconditional support. Anything short of this falls on us in provision, vision, understanding, and in lifting our children in a belief that they can do what we did and better.

Kidstrive to be given work and the tools necessary to carryon the work.


What does it mean?

Webster list it:

  • 1a : the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospectof possessing what one desires : delightb : the expression or exhibition of such emotion : gaiety
  • 2: a state of happiness or felicity : bliss
  • 3: a source or cause of delight

Walking in high spirits can be difficult to achieve and hold on to at times. It seems to be so deeply tied to security, safety, courage, comfort, love, purposed, contentment and many other human characteristics. So much so that if void of these and many others it can be difficult to attain joy.

Children on the other hand seem to have a better grasp on this state of being. They call on it with ease as if it never leaves. So much so that a child without it can be one of our indications that something or all is not well with the child. We may associate it with less to worry about, void of responsibility, carefree, careless, not focused, playful and many other terms that are sometimes posed as negative or used in negative terms. For most children the joy seems to be innate almost built in. Almost begging the question if we should even attempt to do things contrary to the Joy they seem to have so naturally.

Participating in their joy seems to or can qualify you as cool and engaging in their eyes. So are you cool? Are you engaging with the little ones and even the not so little ones (teens). They clearly measure adults along these lines if you pay close enough attention. Kids are looking for us to partake in what they find to be joyous but most adults may inadvertently push the invite aside for many reason. Some of the obvious reasons for this rejection: place, time, context, bore, weighted thoughts, burdens, sorrow, other things to do, and many others.

As a generation, culture and as a people in time as a whole. We have moved away from teaching our kids compared to the stark contrast of days only one or two generations ago. Well who can we blame? Is it the systems of the world, Is it the access to media that fills our days and night, Is it our reliance on the education system to do the lifting of educating, Is it the moving away from faith based teachings and values along with morals referenced as the source. We must be vigilant of all the changes that occur as we seek to build a life per say.

Subjecting all things to the Creator as opposed to ourselves, makes for easy reference because as humans are always changing. The arguments that some changes are inevitable but without a firm foundation it seems like we move solely based on how we feel. Teenage years is a major place where most seek things to build who they are as growth occurs. Mastering emotions and self control as a major contributor to some of the challenges that develop. The understanding of what the body can do coupled with the mobility and exposure can lead to some huge collisions that can shake the foundation of the individual, shaping and effecting who they are and in some cases worse, who they become…….

If we are the ones called to steward these children in the way they should go, shouldn’t some things be deeply rooted in a consistent truth and not in an inconsistent belief of what we think is right or wrong. Looking inwardly only is the result of the self guiding navigation that we sometimes attempt and it leaves kids whose vessels are still being built to imitate or follow our leads of this independence. Especially with the limitation of our bodies when exposed to certain environments, substances and conditions.

Everything has a purpose and things used outside of their purpose is abnormal use (abuse). That especially includes us as well! The recovery from any of these “life lessons/mistakes/self exploration” can and has proven to be just to hard to come back from on our own especially to our youth. No matter the amount of pills, therapy, or course correction that we do.

Those who believe that we are spiritual beings that live in a body and possess a soul should consider how they would guide or support a teen when the problem goes beyond the body. The sadness of depression, self worth, loss, crippling fear, divorce, identity, lack of purpose, absence of love and how to recognize it, moreover the ability to offer love to another. All of which go beyond what one learns in the standard biology class. Providers and Specialist who have practiced medicine and trained for years have little understanding of such things.

Which way is up? I believe it that leadership starts with the management of a gift you already have on the inside that is identified and served to another. The gift identified can then be polished and multiplied by its use for another. I believe our Heavenly Father loves us and wants us to love one another, he makes that clear in his Word.

““A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
‭‭John‬ ‭13:34‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Our children need to know and be exposed so they have no doubts of love. They all want to hold on to the joy they possess, but the question becomes who should they turn too when they clearly are better at it than most adults. Who will you turn too as an adult in order to reclaim what was lost.

Kidstrive to keep joy accessible and not only view it as vapor.