Elemental love

Existing as an uncombined chemical element. That’s Webster’s dictionary definition. Our children displays this in the way they love, wrapped in joy and wonder, so deservingly of our protection and devotion. The enthusiasm we bring although rooted in the pure can get tainted by our hurts, fears and pain we sometimes have or are currently experiencing.

The danger here is when we sometimes take up in defense of this love against others that love the child as well. The circles that encapsulates these children all add to a child having all that they need to grow. If you find ourself denying love from the other parent of the child, grand parents, aunts, uncles, teachers, healthcare providers or anyone who expresses genuine care we should look within. Are we denying the love because of a hurt we feel that was done to us by that person? Essentially withholding access to support that another may be willing to offer.

Care is an aspect of love similar to correction that is essential in the growth of a child. Don’t get me wrong in acknowledging the role of the parent / primary care giver. The input where another agrees in a matter that is beneficial and aligned with the principles that a child needs should not be denied based solely on a bias. Especially in the case of an individual that is expected to care or has consistently demonstrated that they love the child as well.

Let’s take a good look at ourselves and recognize when we are pushing others away and rejecting love in essence to try and repair something broken. I am aware how challenging these matters can be when children are involved but understand some of what makes a child love so pure. I for one cannot begin to measure it or place a value on it to tag it for compensation. In fact no one can. This is a humble opinion that what if love is tied to our purpose, just like flight can be considered the purpose of a bird. Especially in the role of a steward of this special little person over this journey of life. I am taking aback by the gravity of who this little one will become and pray all the paths for them are straight.

Kidstrive to absorb and grow in love in the purest of forms to that charges in the direction of purpose.

Loving union

When a man and woman unite and the two becomes one in the union. Love brings about great miracles spoke into existence since the beginning and all the words spoken created yesterday, today and tomorrow.

Truth – Children are a blessing and when we unite in union, we are to come into agreement to the purposes our Heavenly Father has for His children.

“Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.””
‭‭John‬ ‭14:6-7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Law – Children are seeking direction in the way they should go. We are are taught to pass the laws from our Heavenly Father to our children so they can pass it to their children. In his commandments instructions are given to our children, let’s point them towards it and don’t abandon it. We must draw near so so we can demonstrate for our children.

Culture – It’s the atmosphere and environment that our children are subjected too. The invitation of peace and truth has been given to us. Parents, please be aware of the cultural messages that come at our children from all sides. Oneness is a must for our children anything else is too costly.

The events in the news has shown us the power of an atmosphere. My condolences for those who lost their lives. Let us teach our children the truth because there is only one. We are only made in one image.

Kidstrive

Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/pro.5.18.nlt

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/mal.2.15.nlt

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/ecc.12.1.nlt

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/rut.4.15.nlt

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

What does it mean to be a child?

Part of a whole

To want the best for all and see no one harmed?

To possess the nature of innocence ?

Is it to live in a world of wonder and curiosity?

To love and be loved because it’s in you, around you and besides you without effort, and through the love that got you here?

Could it be possessing the capacity to learn because your heart is still pliable?

Expected belief of being fed without worry?

Seeking direction clearly stated direction and demonstration of obedience by the ones you love with clear connection to the Source of rules?

Learning how to navigate through play, serving, sharing and others things that are pure all coalescing into a family, Neihbourhood, community, nation and the world.

To know you are protected so that you can walk in the authority given onto you.

Or is it to be sure of your true north, as certain as the magnetic fields pointing to it. All serving as witness along with the atmosphere placing ~14 lbs of pressure enveloping you in security.

Kidstrive to know what it means to be a child.

Gather

Gather your family and teach them the truth even when it’s uncomfortable. Family devotion and time together to know our Father’s word are critically important. It is essential for the devolpment of our children as well as ours. So hold your family close to introduce, expose, guide, demonstrate Jesus to your family so our children can witness first hand how much we as parents depend on our Heavenly Father.

Is it that the more we avoid the truth, we believe everything else?

Having been a husband and parent for some time now, I know that I am a mere steward for my family and that I surrender it all to Him.

Are you looking for a positive change in your family?

Kidstrive Blog.

Love emerging on its journey to merging to complete.

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  • It’s consistently looking for ways to bring and maintain Joy within his or her home that overflows, spills out and cannot be contained.
  • It’s respecting others not for what they do or don’t do; its doing solely for who they are in a commitment.
  • Enduring all trials and tribulations because of your agreement.
  • Looking upon another and recognizing the love that’s within is pure and worthy to die to protect.
  • Putting asides feelings that do not originate from truth because there is only One. Serving as a Stewart to help guide as the person gets ready to soar in there assigned purpose.
  • Disciplining in love, not by what we feel to be right but sourced from and with Grace and Truth. Holding the values close to your heart to ready it for handing it to another.
  • Speaking words of life, hope and love to all you encounter with the courage to stand up, stop and correct wickedness done to others.
  • Allowing love to reign through every stage of growth and navigation of the desires of the heart.
  • Forming partnership in an ultimate collaborative atmosphere void of envy, bragging and strife.
  • Preparing little ones with the respect and duty to the spirit within, serving as a gentle guide and protector of pure innocence.
  • Giving generously while taking prudent steps that can and will be applied tomorrow.

Kidstrive to know the truth about love and who it rest in.

Shooting Arrows (updated)

Children carry our DNA and that’s not even the half of it. What they carry in essence are an essential part of what it means to be human!

Kidstrive to honor their parents and serve their purpose by perpetual proliferation of the love they received multiplied.

Family

Family is a form of first government. It was established before government and played a crucial role in creating it. Imagine this construct as a fortified safe space of a unit. This is the only unit kids have enough of an understanding in to call it their own. It can be difficult to follow any system if it’s not practiced at home. Things we can possibly do:

  • Teaching our families foundational values that will not be shaken.
  • Disciplining with love at the center.
  • Keeping this unit void of wins and loses internally.
  • Outside invaders that have a negative effect on its identity.
  • Keeping God and his word close as a guiding force, loving one another unconditionally.
  • Practicing charity in the service to one another in readiness for serving those on the outside.
  • Building character by practicing on path to modeling the expected behavior for the children and each other in the household.

Kidstrive for love in the present and hope for the future.

Can’t wait to speak

What if we felt like we were never heard. Everyone seen like someone to hide complex things from. Children and teens would understand things if the language was translated or spoken in words they knew. Their voice and cries going unnoticed because their words too are not understood. It possibly would be like a citizen of a foreign land that enjoyed Arnold Schwarzenegger movies but unable to understand the language without the subtitles.

Our understanding of things as human beings young or old can are all digestible but only if prepared correctly and we possess the equipment necessary to engage. Babies consume carrots in a purée form because the digestive system is entirely not ready for carrots in the raw, carrots sliced, baked roasted or in any other form that require teeth and saliva as the basic components of digestion. With all that being said they still eat the same carrot. The denial of the basic understanding of a unit is not something we get to withhold from children. A child having to be shared by parents is complex for adults as is, please don’t think if it is masked with niceties that a clear level of explanation will not be needed. Children need answers just as much as we do and dislike when they don’t have it just like us but possibly in a worst way. The formation of identity is a delicate process that by any measure seems to be best done when rooted in stability. The countless reasons for separations is not one to take likely when it involves so much hurt, so please know that this is not written to add to anyone’s pain. I like most, don’t like to see anyone suffer so my prayers go out to you.

Instead this is to bring to light the cries of the child, teen and young person. The sensitive subject that this is calls for an awareness that the children involved have a tremendously difficult time with this because of all the obvious reasons. But imagine that you were placed in a strangers home and a sheet was tossed over your head while having to navigate the entire home. Kids going through this tend to experience something akin to this in my humble opinion. Grace to them……

As parents adults, we must be mindful to speak the truth to our little ones in an age appropriate language that they can understand. Please hear the message that the things hidden eventually come to the light so take the time to identify them just like you would identify a lion or any other dangerous thing to a child.

The changes to these fundamental parts of life are important in growth and development so let’s love our children and teach them truth because there is only one.

Hopefully these words, though not easy, can serve another. The children carry all the DNA of the two that are divided so one could only imagine the feelings of a child with limited understanding when their flesh is torn. With a clear mind observe their behavior because that is the only way you may know. Their words will not be comprehendible.

My thoughts and prayers goes out to all the children and families affected by this storm but like all storms that come in there severity, it too will pass. Please turn to God in or out of the storm. Love each other even when we must walk separate paths.

Kidstrive to be oriented in the direction they should go when part of their world was destroyed.

Kidstriving from deep within a striving adult

Living a life void of regrets is living a life in sound character and grace.

Aiming at my target with fixed gaze perfecting trajectory, adjusting for wind and possible turbulence due to rising heat.

Staying as clear away from the darkness because trust does not live there at all.

Heeding the call to action. Transparency of the heart. Loving each day as though it were the last, searching for the light in others. Redemption on the way as promised. So thankful for another opportunity!

Kidstrive to be whole.

Culturing peace within the home.

Our children and family as a whole should enter the home expecting it to be a place of peace. This peace is freely giving to us by our Heavingly Father.

In order to walk in this peace it has to be cultured into the home through the values, belief and intentionality of the individuals within this system. It starts with the spiritual leader of the home. The person and support tasked with teaching these beliefs and values. Parents must take and hold these expected standards seriously through consistent teaching until it becomes second nature to all that dwell within the home. The values also has to become apparent to those who frequent the residence like, help, Grandparents, Cousins, Aunts and Uncles to name a few. These are not to make anyone uncomfortable but just known expected conduct to those that interact in and throughout your home.

Culturing this peace clearly takes a grounding in identity for all with little to no variance in fundamental beliefs. The goal at minimum should be to have weekly meeting discussing these truths’ as they encounter outside influences. Outside influences can only be regulated by the security of self by the individuals as they leave the home on a day to day basis.

Some examples of the things that can be cultured:

  • Calling or speaking to others outside their given names like: Stupid, curse words intended to degrade another.
  • Profanity in the home.
  • Speaking to others inside and outside the home in ways that are not peacable.
  • Treating others with love, kindness and gentliness.
  • Preferring words that uplift and build up another.
  • Cleanliness geared towords efficiency and accessibility of work in the home.
  • Holding Knowledge as a natural and higher choice over mind numbing consumption.
  • Keeping Understanding as a “guest” in the home and within every conversation.
  • Compassion superior to personal passions. “How can we serve otheres”.
  • Creation as the foundation of work in and from the home.

Culturing peace clearly takes a level of intentionality that has to be agreeed apon by all and grown like a “laboratory culture” within pocket/segments. These positive aspects should be grown within the specific gifts and strengths of the individuals of the home, then shared and expanded through open discussions and praise.

Yes, this and all that surround it can be easier said than done but I have found them to be near impossible to achieve without God at the center. Hoping for all the success within your home and hopeful these words can serve as support. The home is a spot where love and peace should live as we come in to be renewed from the outside. Wisdom and understanding should always be welcomed.

#Kidstrive to be taught how to culture peace within everyspace they enter.

Through the important question of How???

Our children have several questions as they grow. The question of how things work is deeply rooted in gaining a healthy understanding of the world.

Listen attentively to these questions as they present. They serve as opportunity to gain their confidence and your ability to keep them safe. This question is roots their ability to critically think. It appears after a few bumps and bruises that the had no foresight for, with faint to no understanding of consequences at this point. Some opportunities may slip through but it’s important you be there as they root themselves in reality as they form judgment of the things around in their environment.

Imagination is a major part of their thought and should not be diminished because of its ties to play that is associated with their understanding of the social construct. The ability to form sound judgment in the decision making process will typically need guidance of the teacher’s in their life “Dad and Mom.” These need to done in your presence so be present for these opportunities. They are not to be handed to a care giver especially when not at work because guiding this process could possibly be tied to what it means to be a parent.

This is specially significant in a time where religious beliefs, faith based practices are minimized in the home. Storytelling, family readings, faith based activity, “family devotions,” and one on one talks with deep intimacy are critical to their development. Understand to everything there is a purpose and to everything a cost and consequence for omissions, no matter where you stand currently. There are some essentials kids need for the soundness of mind. This is especially important in the areas of Fears, addictions, vanity, sadness, isolation and depression, behaviors and some other things that can have a negative effect on thriving.

Keep on alert for the how question as they learn and grow. Think of all the areas where critical thinking is needed at high levels like Math and Science to name a few.

Some of the initial question like:

  • Question about clouds and rain!
  • How Air works?
  • How water behaves?
  • How much in boundaries of quantity.
  • How long until you return that has deep roots in a common lagger in understanding of time and change.
  • How birds fly?
  • How to play various games to give understanding of give and take in association with turn taking.
  • How did I get here?

As you might be aware if you have been around little ones those questions come in the thousands so:

  • Place priority to knowledge and understanding in the home and when seeking caregivers.
  • Creativity should also be made a priority.
  • Routine can also be important in association with time and expected outcomes.
  • Intimacy in conversation and general care. Slow anger and minimal frustration should be shown as negative behaviors present. Keep your instruction on repeat in anticipation of the action and limited at the time of the event. Correct firmly in love and quick to forgive.

How do you do that Dad?

How come Mom?

Speak to it now while you have there air so when they have the ability to decide they choose to continue to heed your voice along with the morals and values held. They will take your voice with you as they grow even outside your presence, so speak things of value that last.

Kidstrive to know how?

Thank you for reading!