Is correction and discipline necessary with children and beyond?

Let’s approach this one in the form of questions and statements.

  • Do you care for me?
  • You are never around, so why do you care anyway.
  • My friends parents let’s them do it.
  • I don’t care what you say.
  • That was long ago, that not even a big deal now.
  • how do you know what’s best for me.
  • I don’t believe in what you are talking about. Why so I believe that?
  • I _____ you
  • But Mom, but Dad. You just don’t know.
  • It’s just something my friends and I do for fun. It’s no big deal.
  • It’s just a few minutes late and I only had one.

Principle things are principle because they are first, core values. Truth, Rules, laws and what right should be presented early, demonstrated and used often with the goal to serve as tools for things that may be encountered in the environment.

Correction and the ability to receive it can be difficult to implement outside of what seems to be such a short time in the grand scheme of things. We must protect the things that are precious and if we omit the understanding of laws that appear to be ancient yet have life. Do we really care?

Kidstrive for correction, instruction and direction.

Elemental love

Existing as an uncombined chemical element. That’s Webster’s dictionary definition. Our children displays this in the way they love, wrapped in joy and wonder, so deservingly of our protection and devotion. The enthusiasm we bring although rooted in the pure can get tainted by our hurts, fears and pain we sometimes have or are currently experiencing.

The danger here is when we sometimes take up in defense of this love against others that love the child as well. The circles that encapsulates these children all add to a child having all that they need to grow. If you find ourself denying love from the other parent of the child, grand parents, aunts, uncles, teachers, healthcare providers or anyone who expresses genuine care we should look within. Are we denying the love because of a hurt we feel that was done to us by that person? Essentially withholding access to support that another may be willing to offer.

Care is an aspect of love similar to correction that is essential in the growth of a child. Don’t get me wrong in acknowledging the role of the parent / primary care giver. The input where another agrees in a matter that is beneficial and aligned with the principles that a child needs should not be denied based solely on a bias. Especially in the case of an individual that is expected to care or has consistently demonstrated that they love the child as well.

Let’s take a good look at ourselves and recognize when we are pushing others away and rejecting love in essence to try and repair something broken. I am aware how challenging these matters can be when children are involved but understand some of what makes a child love so pure. I for one cannot begin to measure it or place a value on it to tag it for compensation. In fact no one can. This is a humble opinion that what if love is tied to our purpose, just like flight can be considered the purpose of a bird. Especially in the role of a steward of this special little person over this journey of life. I am taking aback by the gravity of who this little one will become and pray all the paths for them are straight.

Kidstrive to absorb and grow in love in the purest of forms to that charges in the direction of purpose.

Loving union

When a man and woman unite and the two becomes one in the union. Love brings about great miracles spoke into existence since the beginning and all the words spoken created yesterday, today and tomorrow.

Truth – Children are a blessing and when we unite in union, we are to come into agreement to the purposes our Heavenly Father has for His children.

“Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.””
‭‭John‬ ‭14:6-7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Law – Children are seeking direction in the way they should go. We are are taught to pass the laws from our Heavenly Father to our children so they can pass it to their children. In his commandments instructions are given to our children, let’s point them towards it and don’t abandon it. We must draw near so so we can demonstrate for our children.

Culture – It’s the atmosphere and environment that our children are subjected too. The invitation of peace and truth has been given to us. Parents, please be aware of the cultural messages that come at our children from all sides. Oneness is a must for our children anything else is too costly.

The events in the news has shown us the power of an atmosphere. My condolences for those who lost their lives. Let us teach our children the truth because there is only one. We are only made in one image.

Kidstrive

Blueprints on how to build a home to completion through, knowledge, understanding amd wisdom.

Attached to the source in order to yield good fruit.

How can we find the one to partner with in building a home on firm foundation? Although it may be important, it is not enough to place your faith on the ability to provide. Despite what society tells us it may be shallow to think all you need is provision when this can be lost in an instant. Building a family that last is based on so much more in pursuit of becoming one with the body of Christ.

Here a few scriptures without added words for you to receive what’s necessary for your home. This series will have 4 scripture at a time, feel free to seek more information by looking up each of them and reading the scripture surrounding each.

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/pro.5.18.nlt

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
‭‭Malachi‬ ‭2:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/mal.2.15.nlt

“Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.””
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭12:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/ecc.12.1.nlt

“May he restore your youth and care for you in your old age. For he is the son of your daughter-in-law who loves you and has been better to you than seven sons!””
‭‭Ruth‬ ‭4:15‬ ‭NLT‬‬
https://www.bible.com/116/rut.4.15.nlt

Hopefully these words are a blessing to those who are called to build a family, those seeking what to look for in a partner, those who need direction in leading their home to be on firm foundation , and for those who want to give life to their home arms and not use the folly words that plant the seed of division in their home. Speak words of life in your home.

Foundation key.

Kidstrive to be rooted in a tree that is one.

What does it mean to be a child?

Part of a whole

To want the best for all and see no one harmed?

To possess the nature of innocence ?

Is it to live in a world of wonder and curiosity?

To love and be loved because it’s in you, around you and besides you without effort, and through the love that got you here?

Could it be possessing the capacity to learn because your heart is still pliable?

Expected belief of being fed without worry?

Seeking direction clearly stated direction and demonstration of obedience by the ones you love with clear connection to the Source of rules?

Learning how to navigate through play, serving, sharing and others things that are pure all coalescing into a family, Neihbourhood, community, nation and the world.

To know you are protected so that you can walk in the authority given onto you.

Or is it to be sure of your true north, as certain as the magnetic fields pointing to it. All serving as witness along with the atmosphere placing ~14 lbs of pressure enveloping you in security.

Kidstrive to know what it means to be a child.

Working with kids at home. (Tips)

https://pixabay.com/photos/teamwork-farm-workers-co-operation-649498/

Direction – our loving kids. As much as they may not listen to individual request at times, they want to be instructed on what is expected. This can be delivered through instructions but better through demonstration. Easy to understand bullet point directions should be helpful, make sure they can read it back to you and that you’re available for questions.

Plan – starting without a plan for some children is like not planning to start, moreover finish. Schedule their day down to the hour and include breaks. Use Google/Amazon timers, alarms, IOS and Android screen time locks and alerts to manage distractions. This is one of the more critical steps especially when transaction the space where they recline into a plane of productivity. Set your aim for them at 4hrs of productivity.

Acknowledge – pay close attention for the cry for attention. It can be an opportunity for children to consistently give their best because they know you care. Celebrate accomplishments and show that you are pleased with the process at times along the way.

Synchronize – keep the bulk of their schedules synchronized with each other and yours if possible. Teens with their younger siblings for opportunity to support and to allow for group projects and lunch together.

Breaks – Can be scheduled for approximately 2 hour segments. Try to avoid breaks longer that this because it may be hard to develop an effective routine/rhythm. Outside time recommended.

Note: Suggested activities – Math, Science concepts, Reading, Typing, Coding, Art, Building projects and others you believe they could manage.

Websites Suggestions:

https://sso.prodigygame.com/game/start?rid=3e9fca67-b9e1-4dd6-a592-846e961d3b47

https://cheatography.com/explore/search/?q=biology

https://teks.mathgames.com/user/login

https://www.typingclub.com

https://quizizz.com/join

Hopefully, these were helpful to start.

Kidstrive Blog.

Gather

Gather your family and teach them the truth even when it’s uncomfortable. Family devotion and time together to know our Father’s word are critically important. It is essential for the devolpment of our children as well as ours. So hold your family close to introduce, expose, guide, demonstrate Jesus to your family so our children can witness first hand how much we as parents depend on our Heavenly Father.

Is it that the more we avoid the truth, we believe everything else?

Having been a husband and parent for some time now, I know that I am a mere steward for my family and that I surrender it all to Him.

Are you looking for a positive change in your family?

Kidstrive Blog.

Attempting to answer the questions of a child, with love.

We are all children when attempting to navigate complex questions in our world.

My condolences for all who have lost and experience pain through our current challenges.

In an attempt to formulate an answer to the image above:

Because the hardest thing to do is to change a persons mind. You have to convince and possibly demonstrate why they should leave that ism (system/construct) and enter/forge a new one based in truth which deals in value. How do you make this a value to another.

And all of this has to be done in love.

Being Real makes a person stand their ground which have lead to wars. They then never really accept it in their hearts.
It’s not something you can force on a person.

Why or how does a person take a position such as this?

Because as free beings we get to choose. Those choices can be corrupted by the world and some environments we find ourselves. The ugliness that stems from that is dark. The only thing to extinguishes darkness is light 💡.


Jesus is, and is the only one who has explained my heart and yours. It’s the only way to avoid hate that is part of the thing that corrupts a heart. We are unable to mange hate. History has proven that…….

Kidstrive to move out of negative constructs and into the Kingdom.

Sterring

Who steered you? What were your influences? Whose opinion is valid and relevant?

Steering ourselves can be difficult, so imagine if your child is looking to you to learn how to drive a car or tie a bow tie, or ease/avoid the pain of loosing a friend. My thought is that children are constantly looking and actively seeking direction but some of the places they get the answers are not expected. When teaching a teen to drive there are several rules you may lay out for them based on your own experience and tied into the laws that govern your area. To a child the list of things may seem large and endless but the teacher may list them off easily as the child throws question after question. Well, until the child ask some of the more complex question like how to parallel park, or how to do a three point turn with cars on both sides of the street. As the teacher you may have to go take a peep at the rule book / driving instruction manual online.

Steering our youth takes a consistent instruction manual because responding based on what you believe to be right can go devastatingly wrong given the scenario. Placing them in front of experts, the best experts money can buy may help in some challenges, but can be pointless if the child’s values does not line up with the instructor. What if letting them know that you’re there for them is not enough. We have only one true instructor and one rule book that can correct, and one comforter to steer us through the most challenging battles. When our strength, our finances, our security are seemingly not enough for that new situation that seems to have blindsided our homes. Jesus is our Lord, peace and truth. The bible filled and overflowing with instructions for all that we encounter should be our source. I, one dad, one husband, one brother, one uncle, one son, one friend, one citizen, one worker, am never enough on my own. The battles I have encountered and the testimony I have are surely not of strength.

I remember being present in the room as my wife gave birth to our first child, and how helpless one feels when we know that we cannot protect this little one from all the things the world can throw. Surrendering the gift back to the one who gave it is all I knew. This was not easy by any means, it came through countless hours of thought in the deepest places of my mind like so many other men do. Dads draw to silence, Dads weep on the inside rarely outwardly, Dads work with their hands and minds, summing the will to provide, secure and protect. At times, feeling like a boy, feeling of inadequacy, feeling of doubt while the world keeps going. How can I steer anyone in this state. My life and the lives of my family, my love, my future and the future of my family all rest in Him. All Praise and Glory and Honor to my Heavenly Father who it all belongs to. Steer me towards your will.

Kidstrive to be steered in the right direction.

Patterns of expression and understanding

Kids show patterns of behavior that you can learn from similar to adults. Here are a few to look out for..

  • Wanting more – when a child is asking for more, it’s in your best interest to do a needs assessment. The current condition can be masked by a desired condition. Remember that they can be expert negotiators. Excess can be challenging to withdraw once introduced. Giving has greater than consuming, gathers and storing.
  • Correction – directly tied to discipline is must for all children and teens. The morals and values you hold and teach within the home as well as demonstrate are essential for the success of the application. These should be tested via the Word (biblical) and nothing else if you want to maintain consistency. Kid will notice when you pivot y what you feel is right. It can be extremely confusing to children.
  • Sleep as an individual category plays a crucial role in their growth. Keeping a routine in all seasons will reap great rewards for you. Avoid using this as a treat because they tend to want to earn it. This should be held as a standard with every effort. Children and teens psychological and physiological well being can be Directly traced to things like stress, anxiety, performance, irritably and many others including overall health. Speak with their teachers and other care givers regarding their behavior and performance with specific questions. You will have to all the teacher to speak freely without generalizing their overall well-being.
  • Sharing and turn taking. This can be best address through the second bullet. Practicing and application of turn taking are critical to friendship and integration, so it’s important that it’s applied among family and siblings. Apply the moral and value principles directly to the games or home activities in order for them to be locked together in memory with the action. (Kindness, courtesy, gentleness, joy and appreciation for the company to play and the activity itself.
  • Areas of avoidance – look for verbal avoidance, argumentative behavior and negotiations for any activity when it’s even mentioned. Watch for clinging or brushing up against or touching parents and caregiver in the time of the activity. Head bowing, lack of eye contact, mumbling, silence, defiance, tears, shaking and several other behavioral cues can be seen in teens into young adults.
  • Lack of Joy and zeal – Be very observant to your children when you see a drastic change in behavior that leads to long periods of neutral to sad behavior regardless of age. Kids are typically filled with joy and can generate it instantaneously; when this is not present or consistently not present, it can be due to several factors. Here are some possible scenarios: drastic change to their environment, change in relationships, changes in close foundational relationships with or among family.

This list is not comprehensive but only a few patterns that we should be on the vigilant look out for in our kids and their friends. (Yes, observe the behaviors of their friends as often as you have the chance.)

Please seek guidance from your faith based, community circles and professional help if any of these and others are associated with the precious children in your circle. These causes and situations associated can be disturbing to many and should be addressed. I hope this severs as a guide on your journey.

Kidstrive for someone to understand and help address their concerns.

Love emerging on its journey to merging to complete.

Pixabay image
  • It’s consistently looking for ways to bring and maintain Joy within his or her home that overflows, spills out and cannot be contained.
  • It’s respecting others not for what they do or don’t do; its doing solely for who they are in a commitment.
  • Enduring all trials and tribulations because of your agreement.
  • Looking upon another and recognizing the love that’s within is pure and worthy to die to protect.
  • Putting asides feelings that do not originate from truth because there is only One. Serving as a Stewart to help guide as the person gets ready to soar in there assigned purpose.
  • Disciplining in love, not by what we feel to be right but sourced from and with Grace and Truth. Holding the values close to your heart to ready it for handing it to another.
  • Speaking words of life, hope and love to all you encounter with the courage to stand up, stop and correct wickedness done to others.
  • Allowing love to reign through every stage of growth and navigation of the desires of the heart.
  • Forming partnership in an ultimate collaborative atmosphere void of envy, bragging and strife.
  • Preparing little ones with the respect and duty to the spirit within, serving as a gentle guide and protector of pure innocence.
  • Giving generously while taking prudent steps that can and will be applied tomorrow.

Kidstrive to know the truth about love and who it rest in.

Mom and Dad; I have questions

How did you put your heads together, better yet your hearts to make me feel loved?

How did you make a home in the midst of all that goes on in the world?

How did you sacrifice so much of yourself to give to others with joy?

Why did you gather us routinely to teach lessons and pour into us?

Why would you work hard to provide for our needs?

Why toil and labor till it hurt to offer opportunity?

Who taught you to give so generously to others?

Who covered you when you felt alone, do you feel alone?

Who is your Source that reassures you that everything will be okay?

When did you come to know Jesus as the way and that he carried you the whole time? Nothing but God!

Thank you to all the Moms and Dads that teach, introduce, give, care and love their children!

Kidstrive to know these things!