Kids show patterns of behavior that you can learn from similar to adults. Here are a few to look out for..
- Wanting more – when a child is asking for more, it’s in your best interest to do a needs assessment. The current condition can be masked by a desired condition. Remember that they can be expert negotiators. Excess can be challenging to withdraw once introduced. Giving has greater than consuming, gathers and storing.
- Correction – directly tied to discipline is must for all children and teens. The morals and values you hold and teach within the home as well as demonstrate are essential for the success of the application. These should be tested via the Word (biblical) and nothing else if you want to maintain consistency. Kid will notice when you pivot y what you feel is right. It can be extremely confusing to children.
- Sleep as an individual category plays a crucial role in their growth. Keeping a routine in all seasons will reap great rewards for you. Avoid using this as a treat because they tend to want to earn it. This should be held as a standard with every effort. Children and teens psychological and physiological well being can be Directly traced to things like stress, anxiety, performance, irritably and many others including overall health. Speak with their teachers and other care givers regarding their behavior and performance with specific questions. You will have to all the teacher to speak freely without generalizing their overall well-being.
- Sharing and turn taking. This can be best address through the second bullet. Practicing and application of turn taking are critical to friendship and integration, so it’s important that it’s applied among family and siblings. Apply the moral and value principles directly to the games or home activities in order for them to be locked together in memory with the action. (Kindness, courtesy, gentleness, joy and appreciation for the company to play and the activity itself.
- Areas of avoidance – look for verbal avoidance, argumentative behavior and negotiations for any activity when it’s even mentioned. Watch for clinging or brushing up against or touching parents and caregiver in the time of the activity. Head bowing, lack of eye contact, mumbling, silence, defiance, tears, shaking and several other behavioral cues can be seen in teens into young adults.
- Lack of Joy and zeal – Be very observant to your children when you see a drastic change in behavior that leads to long periods of neutral to sad behavior regardless of age. Kids are typically filled with joy and can generate it instantaneously; when this is not present or consistently not present, it can be due to several factors. Here are some possible scenarios: drastic change to their environment, change in relationships, changes in close foundational relationships with or among family.
This list is not comprehensive but only a few patterns that we should be on the vigilant look out for in our kids and their friends. (Yes, observe the behaviors of their friends as often as you have the chance.)
Please seek guidance from your faith based, community circles and professional help if any of these and others are associated with the precious children in your circle. These causes and situations associated can be disturbing to many and should be addressed. I hope this severs as a guide on your journey.
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