This is not an all encompassing list. These can be contrary to what the world at large thinks, but I strongly believe there are not many alternatives approaches to delivering truths for kids beyond firm belief. Therefore, many if not all of these beliefs or something bearing semblance should be established before your kids materialize as part of the equation. Due to the spongy nature of kids, it is analogous to trees vs plants. (Trunk or stem – Plants, apart from trees, have soft stems. Trees generally have hard, woody stems).
Commit to be present on a consistent basis as possible. You don’t have to bat for 1000, you just have to bat frequently and mean it through your engagement. Kids in particular are so understanding when you genuinely make an effort, especially if we fall short with a track record of being present. They may be disappointed but explain in a way that they understand and show anticipation of their success along with their” blow by blow” commentary upon their return home.
Clearly declare your support for all members of the family through straight forward language. “I am pleased with all the work you put in”, “Daddy, you are the best, your love is overwhelming, unmatched…” “You bring me so much joy my love”, “Your an amazing reader princess, that is a gift”, “Son, you are strong”. “Mom I love your cooking, I hope to be as good as you”.
The morals and values we hold should be a part of you and with us at all times. We should always be pleasant and make eye contact when greeting someone. We have an identity given to us by the creator. We believe in treating others fairly. We believe that we are bodies are a temple and we should protect, respect, and care for it. Words have meaning, be mindful before you speak.
Discipline is a necessity when you don’t obey. I need you to go and sincerely apologize to your sister. Did we not speak about the way you treat others? There is a consequence for your action son…
Eliminating stress in the home and beyond by anticipating the needs of all members of the family should be high priority. It should also be communicated to any person who partakes in the raising or interacts with the smallest members of the home. Please don’t mix stress with the expected rigor a child needs to encounter in their development. Predicting the needs of the spouse should be baked in as well to represent as an external demonstration for children. I soundly believe fathers play a pivotal role in this principle.
The principal of communicating well seem to be universally agreed as to be crucial in the success of the family and the marriage union. This is best expressed through the biblical verse on love. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Play’s role has also been well researched in relationships and in the development in children. Its importance is inseparable with emotions critical in the storage of positive memory. The bonds formed by playing together will last beyond a lifetime and I have suspicion its tied to the species of man and his ability to become/manifest. This scientific article outlines its importance here.
The best things in life a clearly eternal riches that comes from God’s goodness and grace. Personally, I feel his love for me by the relationships he has put in my path through friends and people I meet daily. The gift of my extended family along with the treasure of my wife and kids I am called to steward. So magnificent!
Loving your spouse is another principle that has been said so many ways but has shown to be difficult over long and short periods of time. Seemingly almost impossible if two are divided on their vision and in some cases the beliefs for their family. The connection between love and respect seems to be an age old song intertwined from the beginning of time. Love = Willingness to die. Love = willing to submit.
Energizing the spiritual growth of the family, or in this case my family means to be in constant fellowship and thankfulness to the creator. I believe the fellowship is the first thing he called man to have in Genesis along with our work. God speaks through his word. Kids especially, need the soundness of belief for their growth and development.
Hopefully this receives you well.