Parent and adult support network should be vigilant about how kids are coping with traumatic events
Give age appropriate information in a manner suitable for the child’s age and understanding.
Manage specific times to speak to trauma the family is dealing with, it should be a time carved out for discussion. This may possibly help with obsessive thought about the topic throughout the day and at worst at night that adds to sleep disruption.
Parents and adults should have concrete beliefs or concrete unknowns in the sense that your thoughts regarding the event in question should be fleshed out to let the child know that you have some measure of faith. This faith is important because the child will be watching for your soundness in what you believe.
Teachers and adults in the child network should do well at having sincere empathy for the event or events but should do their best not to allow the child to place them in a negative space as well. The sadness can be in such a place that the energy brings the outsider (adult/teacher/friend/extended family) down as well which I understand is very natural. I think children need us to be a light in the dark with these events because it drains a child or anyone for that matter and lifting a child’s spirit should be your goal. Push through the moment and try to pivot when the child seems to slide back into the sadness.
I believe that we should demonstrate God’s love and grace in order to appreciate the today. Let them know every time the sun sets and the sun rises is a chance for a reset and an opportunity for us to be better today than we were yesterday.
Hopefully this entry can help someone.
The most valuable gift that you can give your children is not money; it is the ability to think positively. The money will soon be gone, but the ability to think positively will go on to help your children be a success throughout their lives. Mary Kay